Damn Doug ...Awesome !
Doug ...That Is Truly Awesome That You are Still Together after all these years ....You hear So much about the marriages That DON't Work out When they Maybe Rushed , But Never hear about the success Stories . I've Never Been married so i wouldn't know how hard it is at times to make it work....all i know is that i think in my heart that this lady is an honest /wholesome gal who i think i can be a good partner with the rest of my life .
doug , i may become a completely different man after all is said n done ...for the worse or for the better , but i gotta take that chance !
Doug ...That Is Truly Awesome That You are Still Together after all these years ....You hear So much about the marriages That DON't Work out When they Maybe Rushed , But Never hear about the success Stories . I've Never Been married so i wouldn't know how hard it is at times to make it work....all i know is that i think in my heart that this lady is an honest /wholesome gal who i think i can be a good partner with the rest of my life .
doug , i may become a completely different man after all is said n done ...for the worse or for the better , but i gotta take that chance !
kimchee,
Think of marriage as an equilateral triangle with you and your wife as the bases and God at the top....the closer you grow together, the closer you both grow to God. Good luck...you're gonna need it. Even though my marriage is a success, it's been a struggle every day...but it's a fight worth waging!
Think of marriage as an equilateral triangle with you and your wife as the bases and God at the top....the closer you grow together, the closer you both grow to God. Good luck...you're gonna need it. Even though my marriage is a success, it's been a struggle every day...but it's a fight worth waging!
doug , although i am agnostic and my grammar sucks , i do appreciate your input ... i think u r right , if we both did believe in god , we'd have a better triangle ....without being phony ...for now, we have to believe in each other ....although its not as bonding as a 3rd influence , i hope that our common values / goals/ n interests can be that top tear triangle ...thanx
From The 3 months I've Known Her and the ONE Week That I've Seen Her , I am First Attracted To Her Physically ..pretty n young .Next , her personality Is Very SOFT , Meek n KIND .She's A Hard Worker And Has good Values from what see . We Both Have Similar backgrounds And Have Similar Goals . In My mind , She ISthe ONE I'd like To Place My Bet On ...( just like before U Bet , U weigh The situation.pro's n cons ).
That's A Short list from The little that I know ....I know From My personal Experience, YouCan Date Someone For 2 years or two months , But you Never know Them until you live With them OR Until YOU ARE Truly MARRIED To them ( true Commitment )....Like I said, I've always errored in The side of Caution And Had the bachleor lifestyle My whole life ...SO what I Am Doing IS Not in the NORM , BUt something I feel In my hEART is A DAMN GOOD BET 'cause I'd be the last person on earth To do Something like This ..BUt Seeing HEr In Person really GOT TO ME ...INNER connection With This Chick from afar ...plus,I feel its Time to settle down and Create a new Life ...with a Woman N possibly a Family ...Not gettin any younger and bangin a new chick with No commit is just a merry Go Round ...Let's Face It..WE ALL WANT tHAT Special SOMEONE WE Can TRUST N SHARE our LIFE With no Matter How Much we refuse to admit it !
So I hope I answered ur question although It was More Than 100 words .
Every rose has its Thorn
I'm Sure It won't Be An easy transition , But I Think This Rose is Worth it !
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I would love to be there when you guys fight (hopefully not, but no one can stop the inevitable). Whole bunch of shit would be flying around and none of you would know what the hell the other person is saying.
I can speak, read and write but def prefer all that in English. Thus, marrying a korean girl is out of the question - also, I'm not that interested in Asian girls.
Are you gonna have the marriage in Korean or English? Sorry to be so nosey. Just curious how a dude who lives in the States marry a girl who lives Korea
Why NO LOVe ??
Slim
I Totally UNDerstand Your POINT ....That Is Prescisely WHY I nEVER mentioned The WORD " LOVE" ...'cause I'd Be Lieing To Her And everybody Else To say That I was in " LOVE" . Christ ...I Know I Barely Know Her , bUT From WHat I Know ...I believe That in my HEART I CAN GROW To LOVE This Woman ....I Know She Is NOT in "LOVE " With Me YET , ...But I know In Her Heart That SHE FEELS That I AM The MAN SHE WANTS To LOVE And RISK and LEave EVERYTHING behind to Take That Chance of TRue LOVE ....Its A hellavulla Gamble on Both Parts .....BUT IF That Kind of Commitment isn't "love" it's Sure A GREAT sTART !!!
I Know I "like" Her Pretty Damn Much ! ...As far as "love" people Fall In and out of "Love" all The Time ...I was in "Love" a Few Times , BUT I DON"t THINK I WAS EVER as COMMITTED to Take on The RESPONSIBility of " LOVE" than ever Before !
In a perfect World...I agree ..IT Should Be about "Love" ....But remember why Those Old "setUP" marriages seem To work?....IT Was About PEople Who were COmmitted To each other And Then FALLING IN LOVE !
Slim
I Totally UNDerstand Your POINT ....That Is Prescisely WHY I nEVER mentioned The WORD " LOVE" ...'cause I'd Be Lieing To Her And everybody Else To say That I was in " LOVE" . Christ ...I Know I Barely Know Her , bUT From WHat I Know ...I believe That in my HEART I CAN GROW To LOVE This Woman ....I Know She Is NOT in "LOVE " With Me YET , ...But I know In Her Heart That SHE FEELS That I AM The MAN SHE WANTS To LOVE And RISK and LEave EVERYTHING behind to Take That Chance of TRue LOVE ....Its A hellavulla Gamble on Both Parts .....BUT IF That Kind of Commitment isn't "love" it's Sure A GREAT sTART !!!
I Know I "like" Her Pretty Damn Much ! ...As far as "love" people Fall In and out of "Love" all The Time ...I was in "Love" a Few Times , BUT I DON"t THINK I WAS EVER as COMMITTED to Take on The RESPONSIBility of " LOVE" than ever Before !
In a perfect World...I agree ..IT Should Be about "Love" ....But remember why Those Old "setUP" marriages seem To work?....IT Was About PEople Who were COmmitted To each other And Then FALLING IN LOVE !
i tottaly agree T That There Will Be problems ...Esp..Language ...But what Marriage Doesn't Have its Share ?
Remember T ...I'm 37 ...my last two relationships All came With Baggage ...either They were Divorced or had kids...You'll find out when u R datin In ur 30's ....THIS GAL comes From A clean family WITH A CLEAR SLATE....I desreve That "cause I've Done Ok myself With my descisions ....She Will Comtinue To learn English And hell, she Can already Spell Better than Myself....dude, It will Be a quick JP wedding in ENglish in vegas hopefully ...we both want it Simple ! Believe it or NOt ...It's Not about The language or the money, etc.....IT's ABOUT the FVCKN PERSON !!! That's the Foundation ! I know in My heart and what people that know her have expressed ....She Is the REEel deal .... the type of Girl I want as a wife ....Humble , meek , n kind , Honest.....
If you don't Have that as a Foundation, YOu Have Nothing whether She is From the states / white/ black / or Chinese ... The Personin Front of U has to Be SOLID ....then you can tackle the problems That might come up ...and YES ..The More U have in Common aka..language ..the Better off you are ..without a doubt.....Dunno if it will Work , but I'm sure As hell gonna give it a try 'cause I see more Pros than Cons ....plus, I Dig Her !!!!
Slim
I Know That as Well ....U R 100% correct...I gIVE U THAT !
Her Motivation is , She Wants To MAKE A NEWLIFE for HERSELF !! ...The dream of Comin to the states Is a big factor ...YES....BUT KNOWing ME the little She Does , she's NOT ONE To JUST accept marriage Either....She is 27 ... not Completely Yound And Was Proposed Twice by two Former Boyfriends aND SHE Refused ! SO Tis IS NOT normal for Her either ! She Actually LIKES ME although That maybe hard To Believe ...she likes the fact that in Her Mind that I Am KINd / giving / n attractive to her ....AND YES I Don't Doubt Me American is a BIG factor ....But I Don't THINK That COming to The US is THE ONLY Factor ! she'sFVCKN leaving EVERYTHING BEHIND Dude 'cause She wants To Make a NewLIFE WITH The Person SHE TRUSTS To Help Her in that goal.....That alone Is Saying something in What She Feels Towards me doncha think ?
