What's the best way to dump a guy?

[barman]

KOJAK's idea is a bit rough, but probably pretty workable, depending on if your "dates" are paid for by him 100%.

If you've been trading payments, then yeah, agree to join him out somewhere in some kind of social situation and act responsive to some other men.

"Excuse me, I'll be back in a few minutes. Just want to talk to Bill"

He will then either "get it" or he will ask, "What's up?" to which you respond, "Oh, I'm sorry, my bad. I didn't realize you viewed us as exclusive. I really enjoy HANGING OUT with you, but please forgive me if I gave the impression I was looking to be exclusive".

 

[barman]

KOJAK sounds like a guy who's been dumped plenty...heh

Cuz his second suggestion is also a good one.

Tell him that a longtime friend has gotten back in touch and you may not be around as much as past month or so. But as soon as possible, you'd love to get together for a Happy Hour and HANG OUT for couple hours.

 

[Seymour]

Maybe there is more to this - OK, I know you said there has been no sex so to many there really seems to be nothing there - but has there been other contact - for example, have the two of you engaged in an air tight 69?

 

[joeyfitzclick]

for example, have the two of you engaged in an air tight 69?


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[RobFunk]

Xpanda knows I am horrible at giving advice, so I wont even try.

But I will tell you guys a story. And it isnt even that amusing.

Back in high school in art class, some girl named Stacey always wore tight jeans. So one time she gets up from the table and my friend Danny says to her as she is walking away "Stacey has the most awesome ass! Everyone should have an ass like Stacey!" I dont know what to tell you, but that crap made me laugh.

Here is a picture of my bad ass cat. You see, having a cat > Signifigant other

http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b152/robfunk/dcp_2419.jpg

 

[joeyfitzclick]

:drink: :drink: :drink:

 

[joeyfitzclick]

Mine is better....

 

[RobFunk]

Joey, that is terrible. I think that is really your cat and you shaved it just now so you could have better pic than me.

I am calling Ace Ventura

 

[joeyfitzclick]

LOL

Busted :nopityA:

 

[quantumleap]

Just tell him that if he ever had thoughts of moving to the US that you wouldn't be interested in moving there with him. Nevermind the fact that he never had the idea. It's a convenient excuse.

 

[Dante]

So I have this friend ...

We'll call her "Tonya".

She's been dating this guy for a few weeks, out maybe six times or so. Phone calls roughly every other day on average, a bit of emailing. No sex.

Anyway, so this guy is REALLY boring. Like, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz even when booze is involved. They have some stuff in common, but conversations pretty much make her want to stick a fork in her eye. He's not very dynamic, she's reasonably outgoing. He hates sports, she likes sports. She swears, he apologises when he says the word 'shit.' She's spontaneous, he needs an itinerary to go to the zoo. She's a risk-taker, he thinks GICs are a great investment. You see the dilemma.

The problem, however, is that the two of them cross paths roughly once a week due to territorial commitments set in stone for at least the foreseeable future. So she has to see him again whether she likes it or not. Plus he's a really *nice* guy and she doesn't particularly want to hurt him. And he's made it clear he thinks they'll be dating for a while anyway.

What is the nice way to let him go, so that it is firm and clear, yet not so awful that seeing each other is a nightmare?

since no shagging was done ...just tell him you want to be friends only:toast: that will do it

 

[xpanda]

Just tell him that if he ever had thoughts of moving to the US that you wouldn't be interested in moving there with him. Nevermind the fact that he never had the idea. It's a convenient excuse.

:>Grin>

 

[BadCo]

Coke out,wear the same shirt everday,put your funiture in storage one by one him thinking your selling them for drugs.

He;ll leave it always worked for me!

Still think this is your best bet and then he's the heavy for leaving you when you needed him the most.

It's flawless.


I must admit I stole this from the late Sam Kinison

 

[kingbill]

Seriously six dates with no sex...It's still pretty casual and no reasonable person would expect it to be exclusive at that point. Easy Out
"I had fun but I don't feel sparks, I know what I want and I know we are not a fit, best of luck in the future I'm sure you'll find someone great but I am not that person"

 

[joeyfitzclick]

Trust me on the cunnilingus theory.

:thumbsup2:

 

[deucedeuce]

Plus he's a really *nice* guy and she doesn't particularly want to hurt him.

I dont want to be a dick, but make sure you remind her when her next boyfriend is cheating on her and treating her like shit, that she dumped the nice guy.

tell her to be honest no games, just tell this poor sap the truth, they are just not compatible

 

[kingbill]

Plus he's a really *nice* guy and she doesn't particularly want to hurt him.

I dont want to be a dick, but make sure you remind her when her next boyfriend is cheating on her and treating her like shit, that she dumped the nice guy.

tell her to be honest no games, just tell this poor sap the truth, they are just not compatible

I think "Tonya's" trouble with nice guys is they don't challenge her. No one should treat a woman like shit but at the same time they shouldn't be put on such a pedestal that the man is of lower status. That is the problem with the nice guy syndrome, guys are just so happy to have a woman on their arm they will give away all their status and individuality that the woman was likely attracted to in the first place. Don't be an ass but don't be a pus-sy either.

 

[deucedeuce]

Valid point but i have seen chicks drop a decent guy who treated them well for the "bad boy" who fucks em raw and leaves em hangin - hey if thats what you want go for it, just dont bitch about it in the end.

 

[levistep]

Valid point but i have seen chicks drop a decent guy who treated them well for the "bad boy" who fucks em raw and leaves em hangin - hey if thats what you want go for it, just dont bitch about it in the end.

Happens all the time. Girls are attracted to guys that treat them like shit.

 

[kingbill]

Valid point but i have seen chicks drop a decent guy who treated them well for the "bad boy" who fucks em raw and leaves em hangin - hey if thats what you want go for it, just dont bitch about it in the end.

I think in those cases there are self-esteem issues on both sides of the relationship. Woman love the fantasy of the bad boy but they need to feel safe and secure with them too. If you can satisfy both sides of that equation women will be lining up.