What's the best way to dump a guy?

[kingbill]

Or maybe every relationship isn't revolved around sex. How many divorces have you had?

Yes and those relationships are called Friendships. 1 on the way

 

[levistep]

Yes and those relationships are called Friendships. 1 on the way

I'd bet that couples that wait more than 4 weeks have longer relationships than the 3rd date fuckers. The only relationships that i've seen worked waited a while. All the ones where they were getting down and dirty right away ended just as fast as they started.

The real disgusting thing is when these people get married and have kids and then divorce or have kids without being married. I don't have the stats with me (i remember reading them though), but divorce causes more stress to kids than family death.

 

[hawkeye171]

It may be easy to lie, but just being honest is the best way. She doesn't have to reveal every detail of why she doesn't want to date the guy, but she needs to end it, so both can move on. But I do like "she has skeletons in the closet excuse", because we all do.:realtongu

 

[kingbill]

I'd bet that couples that wait more than 4 weeks have longer relationships than the 3rd date fuckers. The only relationships that i've seen worked waited a while. All the ones where they were getting down and dirty right away ended just as fast as they started.

The real disgusting thing is when these people get married and have kids and then divorce or have kids without being married. I don't have the stats with me (i remember reading them though), but divorce causes more stress to kids than family death.

You are a libertarian, you should be against marriage on Principle, no need for the government or a religious organization to get involved in your relationship.

It is true that if you truly want to be with someone long term, waiting 90 days before sex is beneficial, because the chemicals in your brain the are triggered by sex cloud your judgement and you don't see the true person until much later, you don't notice their flaws or at least you over look them.
But not every relationship has to be long term.

 

[oldirtyku]

Throw doo doo on him...

 

[teazeman]

What is the nice way to let him go, so that it is firm and clear, yet not so awful that seeing each other is a nightmare?

If you'd like i'll e-mail the photo's of our perverted sexual encounter that we so enjoyed at the bash, just let me know.

 

[joeyfitzclick]

If you'd like i'll e-mail the photo's of our perverted sexual encounter that we so enjoyed at the bash, just let me know.


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[Arodd]

You've (OK "your friend") been "dating" for six weeks and there has been no sex - that's a little unusual - anyways, I really don't see what there is to break up - tell him you just want to be friends - he must know this if you haven't had sex after a month - this really seems quite simple.

not true at all. apparently no one's old-fashioned on this site, huh.
know lots of people that will wait longer the more they like the person they're dating.

as far as the question at hand, here's the basic working principle u should follow: don't be a bitch. that means not hitting on some other guys at a club like kojak said just to get him upset and not like you, don't overly insult him (he may just be more compatible with someone else, your garbage could be someone else's find). could say u just don't think there's that "it", that chemistry that u thought might exist but wasn't sure of when u started dating, and that u think he's a real great guy but just don't see it working out. just don't be a bitch, bottom line.

 

[kidslick]

Don't do anything. FOR GOD SAKE don't say, "I want to just be friends"

That's the worst and I've heard that one...

I had a women once tell me this and I told her

"I don't ever want to see you again, their is the door, makes sure it doesn't hit you on the ass"

2 years later she sees me by myself, at mass (church), she comes bye to sit next to me, 30 seconds later my girlfriend at the time comes back from the car to sit next to me and ask "who is she"

LOL...funny and long 45 minutes that service was

never got to talk to her..:drink:

 

[newbie666]

have sex with him and find out if it's good enough or not...

in the other hand
in the next phone conver just start talking very excited
how you were out last night with a couple of your female friends
went to a bar.. next thing you met a guy... and try not to go that much in
the conversation but leaving those empty spaces and let the guy
start to worry if you have or not sex with these "new date"...

like if you were talking with your best female friend about how good you got laid yesterday,, but because is your boyfriend you don't want to go that much.. but you really want to tell him...

i bet you he'll leave you alone...

 

[SkinsRaj28]

Just kill this guy. This won't be an issue if he's six feet under.

I'll shoot you that email tonight. Sorry. Get me some work goddamnit...email vegasinsider on my behalf. Hook it up son.

 

[Masxmenos]

So I have this friend ...

We'll call her "Tonya".

She's been dating this guy for a few weeks, out maybe six times or so. Phone calls roughly every other day on average, a bit of emailing. No sex.

Anyway, so this guy is REALLY boring. Like, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz even when booze is involved. They have some stuff in common, but conversations pretty much make her want to stick a fork in her eye. He's not very dynamic, she's reasonably outgoing. He hates sports, she likes sports. She swears, he apologises when he says the word 'shit.' She's spontaneous, he needs an itinerary to go to the zoo. She's a risk-taker, he thinks GICs are a great investment. You see the dilemma.

The problem, however, is that the two of them cross paths roughly once a week due to territorial commitments set in stone for at least the foreseeable future. So she has to see him again whether she likes it or not. Plus he's a really *nice* guy and she doesn't particularly want to hurt him. And he's made it clear he thinks they'll be dating for a while anyway.

What is the nice way to let him go, so that it is firm and clear, yet not so awful that seeing each other is a nightmare?

Tell him you just tested positive foe herpes and ghonohea.

 

[hm2.0]

Tell him you just tested positive foe herpes and ghonohea.

and he will be gonefromthea. :lolBIG:

tell him you fantasize about a threesome w/ two guys...S&M, anal, the whole nine yards - or nine inches - and that should do the trick. uppy:

 

[Kiss1]

Tell him you have McSteamy and McDreamy on hold and you really need to answer the phone.

 

[Teddykgb]

let him do you in the ass and then swallow his load, that should do it.

just make sure you tell us how it went down.

 

[Arodd]

let him do you in the ass and then swallow his load, that should do it.

just make sure you tell us how it went down.

GREAT IDEA

 

[joeyfitzclick]

Dsethi you pulled ANY skirt since the bash ?

Yes + 20,000
No - 35,000

 

[Rawpimple]

This is exactly how the very few nice guys out there turn into regular guys. This may be the last good guy left in the world and Tonya is about to set him up to turn him into Ted Bundy.

Next thing we will hear from this guy is he has about 16 women in a freezer in his basement all because Tonya cant stick things out, give the guy some head, mix in a little anal.

 

[barman]

JMAN shares: I don't like the word sh*t either

SH: No shit?

I'll acknowledge it's one of the most overused cuss words. Should be reserved for truly shitty situations only, not just lobbed around like a bunch of shit.

 

[barman]

SERIOUS responses to Xpanda's lead post begin HERE...I'm reading posts and replying in order.

1) Decline the next few invitations with honest answer that "I have other plans with some other friends".

This could be your "cyber" friends or true face2face gatherings.

After several such courteous declinations, he'll either desist or ask, "What's up, I thought we had something going?"

To which you can then reply with the, "Sure I've enjoyed going out and when our schedules match in coming months, I'd be happy to hang out with you again...But right now I'm just jammed."

The phrase, "hanging out with you" is a great one because that's what FRIENDS say, but not what Lovers or potential lovers say.

Presuming the guy is not a social moron, he's bound to connect a series of declined invitations over a month or more with maybe a single "happy hour" type 'date' to "hang out" for a while (followed by, "Well, it was good to see you again, I've got to go complete a writing project") as a strong message that you and he are not remotely exclusive or that there is any desire on your part to go that way.

The "happy hour" date is another good move because it happens early (6-8pm...drinks and appetizers).

More serious or intimate couples don't end dates at 8pm. So your prearranged departure ("Sure, I'd be glad to hang out with you for a couple drinks and a bite so we can catch up a bit, but then I've got to get going by 8. I hope that's cool") further helps deliver a message of "I like you as a social friend, but you and I aren't going to be a Couple".



IF I WERE SINGLE, I'D BE THE BOMB....heh

But I keep getting into 10+ year relationships, so all my advice is theoretical....Caveat emptor