What about the stats among blacks. How many single parent households are there. That has to be a reason why all the inner cities in this country are shitholes. You can't tell me that "MOST" of the time a 2 parent household is way better than 1.
Single mothers are just breeding grounds for poverty and crime. Just the way it is.
My brother is a single parent BTW. He had to sacrifice a lot to raise his kid the right way.
Of course there is an ideal environment. A mother and Father that love each other and love the kids.
Secondl to that is a Mother and Father that Love their kids, even if there relationship is not great. That is better than divorce. As far as "anger and drama" are grown adults really so weak that the Kids have to know their problems? How about if Mom and Dad have some problems they keep that bullshit AWAY for the kids.
Divorce as a whole hurts children. A "good" father every other weekend and a week or two weeks during the Summer is a FAILURE compared to a good father that is in the House.
Well like in any other thread you are entitled to your opinion, but it doesn't mean much here.
Actually, I give you credit. If you are a dog and know it, or if you really think everybody cheats, staying single is a good idea.
This stuff does drive me nuts. I really don't give a rats ass what grown adults to with their lives. But when kids are involved it does irk me. And the justifications drive me nuts.
When did having Morals, and passing Moral judgements become so bad?
Actually, I give you credit. If you are a dog and know it, or if you really think everybody cheats, staying single is a good idea.
This stuff does drive me nuts. I really don't give a rats ass what grown adults to with their lives. But when kids are involved it does irk me. And the justifications drive me nuts.
When did having Morals, and passing Moral judgements become so bad?
I'd admit that I am in a great situation and after 15 years of Marriage I love my wife more than ever. But we fight, but keep it away from the kids. I don't think it has to be that kids are stupid.
My philosphy is a parents job is to love and protect their kids. Then comes their spouse. A very distant third is myself.
It's okay if you don't agree with this Philosphy, but if you don't you shouldn't get married in the first place...and you definately should NOT have kids.
Right there you are making assumptions with out knowing the story, I've taken my daughter to a child psychologist to make sure we're not messing with her head. The Docs have said she's never seen such a close father daughter bond and that includes "Fathers in the House" So please don't lump me in with the Jackass fathers who don't give a damn about how their kids are raised. I know there are a lot of those F*cks out there but I'm not one of them you FCS.
I'm just going to throw out some food for thought.
If a child grows up in a household where they never witness their parents fighting, could it be that when they enter their own marriage they might consider fighting to be a sign of a failed relationship and end up getting divorced?
If a child grows up in a household where they witness their parents fighting, could it be that they think it is okay and end up in a dysfunctional marriage because they don't think it is a problem?
Point here being that none of you are right or wrong, but people like koidog think they have the be-all-end-all solution to the problem. Nobody does and nobody's going to have the perfect circumstances, so don't preach to anyone else when there are problems in your own household that you don't even know about (because everyone in it is an individual person with their own set or morals and issues that they don't share with everyone).
If a child grows up in a household where they never witness their parents fighting, could it be that when they enter their own marriage they might consider fighting to be a sign of a failed relationship and end up getting divorced?
If a child grows up in a household where they witness their parents fighting, could it be that they think it is okay and end up in a dysfunctional marriage because they don't think it is a problem?
Point here being that none of you are right or wrong, but people like koidog think they have the be-all-end-all solution to the problem. Nobody does and nobody's going to have the perfect circumstances, so don't preach to anyone else when there are problems in your own household that you don't even know about (because everyone in it is an individual person with their own set or morals and issues that they don't share with everyone).
I'm not trying to just rip you bill. But the fact is you had a kid with a woman and decided having an open marriage was a great idea.
Do you do the best you can NOW that you made your bed? If you say you do I take it for your word.
But...the point is you aimed for failure from the begining. Had you tried, who knows? And your daughter..as great as she now is, would be MUCH better of if you and your wife were married and you were there for her 100% of the time.
As far as your Doc.... your seeing a shrink and he says you have the best bond he's ever seen. Think about that, what kind of fuck-ups do you think he normally sees.
You're not saying that shit, you're sitting here trying to attack the guy for the way he's led his life and made his decisions. If you told me to look at what my doctor said about my relationship with my daughter based on the fact that the doc deals with, as you so delicately put it "fuck-ups" then my friend I would consider you to be one of the biggest dicks I'd ever met.
You sit here and tell us all how it should be done, but your life isn't representative of anything in the world but you. You have no bearing on the lives of anyone else here, so stop preaching.
