I have 3 and love my boys but I know that I don't have the relationship like they do with my wife. I can't describe it but carrying them for 9 months provides a bond that I can't compare with. I think this is the reason women often get the benefit of the doubt when it comes to custody hearings.
I have 3 and love my boys but I know that I don't have the relationship like they do with my wife. I can't describe it but carrying them for 9 months provides a bond that I can't compare with. I think this is the reason women often get the benefit of the doubt when it comes to custody hearings.
My wife left me last year and of course it was another guy. Believe me, women are a creature of habit and they don't move unless they think the grass is greener on the other side.. Usually that means another guy as women fear lonelyliness more than unhappiness. As many have said, don't back down on custody of the most important thing - your kids. If I knew now what I knew before, I would have introduced her to this guy five years ago and been much happier much sooner.
No, you shouldn't stay "for the sake of the kids" if you are both miserable. However, as wel all know, women can be impulsive. Maybe they had a decent marriage but she left for weak reason like she was feeling trapped or she was going through the female version of the 7-year itch. Marriage can get to be quite demanding with 3 kids under the age of 6 and maybe she needed some excitement and a break from all that.
People don't always divorce because they are miserable and things can sometimes be save with counseling.
If your serious about getting 50/50 custody of your children and with your work schedule you can make it work. Then ask your wife for joint custody. If she is not giving in, then get yourself a good family lawyer with a good reputation. The importance of getting a good lawyer in your city is that most these lawyers deal with these superior court judges all the time. They know these judges like the back of their hand.
Get your lawyer to move quickly as possible for a court date. In the meantime don't harass your wife or abuse her. Any Police calls or incidents involving the police , you will lose your children . As hard as it to try to remain calm and cool, you have to.
Stick with your friends and family to help you get through this.
Good Luck Man.
I can't believe some of the advice & suggestions given to him in this thread.
If you are in love with someone and they are part of your daily/nightly life & routine, it's not that easy to just have a drink, make a toast to her leaving, playing the field with other women, and living it up...
If you are in love with someone and they are part of your daily/nightly life & routine, it's not that easy to just have a drink, make a toast to her leaving, playing the field with other women, and living it up...
you need to get the best lawyer you can afford and the sooner the better. Even if you think you can work things out and get back together, get the best lawyer you can afford right now.
don't tell her anything, don't agree to anything
listen to your lawyer
if she blind sided you like that, imagine what she's gonna do with a blood thirsty attorney.
good luck
don't tell her anything, don't agree to anything
listen to your lawyer
if she blind sided you like that, imagine what she's gonna do with a blood thirsty attorney.
good luck
