The truth
Here is the true answer: It doesn't really matter. As you said, you are coming off a long-term relationship with someone you knew almost everything about.
Now you've got to learn or relearn everything.
So this time just resign yourself that you are going to screw it up no matter what you choose. This one is for practice and experience. And so is the next one and the one after that. Minimum.
Here is the true answer: It doesn't really matter. As you said, you are coming off a long-term relationship with someone you knew almost everything about.
Now you've got to learn or relearn everything.
So this time just resign yourself that you are going to screw it up no matter what you choose. This one is for practice and experience. And so is the next one and the one after that. Minimum.
66 replies and I am sure 90% of them give the same advice I do, you call the girl. even though texting is more popular these days, in no way, shape, or form does it compare to a phone call, using your voice. man up, call her, and sound like you are interested, but not overly interested.
lol, this shit made me laugh.
To the poster that gave the flowers idea- that is a great way to impress a girl, I agree, but I don't think this is someone he's interested in dating longterm. This is just a practice chick to get comfortable again. She's warmup pussy for when he meets a chick he really likes.
call....you might get her voicemail...and if the message is her voice saying, "Hi..you've reached Bill, leave me a message at the beep."
Then you'll know 2 things:
1) You probably aren't a heterosexual
2) you drink waaaay too much
and if it really is a woman, then leave her a message saying, "I've been by your work, home, grocery store and mother's house...just wanted to say "Hi"
Then you'll know 2 things:
1) You probably aren't a heterosexual
2) you drink waaaay too much
and if it really is a woman, then leave her a message saying, "I've been by your work, home, grocery store and mother's house...just wanted to say "Hi"
You call.
Texting is for two things:
1. When you are 99% sure you are fucked and she hates you. "Hey I'm in town, want to grab a drink." It would be hard for you to be hated in one night.
2. When you are shitfaced at 2AM and want ass. "Hey sweetie, I'm nearby, what are you doing?"
If she gave you her number, pick up the phone and call her. Worse things will happen in your life than her not answering or going out to dinner with you and not being interested. Plus if you text her and she is only a bit interested, she might not answer, but that leaves out the alcohol part
Texting is for two things:
1. When you are 99% sure you are fucked and she hates you. "Hey I'm in town, want to grab a drink." It would be hard for you to be hated in one night.
2. When you are shitfaced at 2AM and want ass. "Hey sweetie, I'm nearby, what are you doing?"
If she gave you her number, pick up the phone and call her. Worse things will happen in your life than her not answering or going out to dinner with you and not being interested. Plus if you text her and she is only a bit interested, she might not answer, but that leaves out the alcohol part
To the guy who said it's not a generation gap thing, I disagree ;-)
Pretty much all of my follow-up chat / organising meals etc is done via text message, and I've had no problems with it. Certainly in Europe people never phone any more.
When I get a phone call (or phone someone) the first thing said is "What's wrong"... phone call almost always = bad news
Pretty much all of my follow-up chat / organising meals etc is done via text message, and I've had no problems with it. Certainly in Europe people never phone any more.
When I get a phone call (or phone someone) the first thing said is "What's wrong"... phone call almost always = bad news
I've heard that in Europe and elsewhere, texting is way more popular a means of communication than making a phone call, simply because it's much more cost-effective than placing a call from a cell. Based on your post, I guess that's true. Pretty interesting stuff. Always cool to see the differences in cultures. Thanks for sharing.
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HOW THE FU©K IS THIS THREAD 4 PAGES??? CALL HER FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!
I'm only a couple years older than you, I know how popular texting is. But be MAN, not a boy, and try to actually have a conversation with her. If every other chucklehead out there will be texting her, then be different and treat her like a lady, be a gentleman and PICK UP THE DAME PHONE AND DIAL - DON'T TEXT.
No matter whether you call or text, if she doesn't reply it will be because you're a moron - this post is 4 pages all over some stupid decision that you can't make for yourself. :finger:
Be a man, not a pu$$y.
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I'm only a couple years older than you, I know how popular texting is. But be MAN, not a boy, and try to actually have a conversation with her. If every other chucklehead out there will be texting her, then be different and treat her like a lady, be a gentleman and PICK UP THE DAME PHONE AND DIAL - DON'T TEXT.
No matter whether you call or text, if she doesn't reply it will be because you're a moron - this post is 4 pages all over some stupid decision that you can't make for yourself. :finger:
Be a man, not a pu$$y.
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Calls aren't that expensive anymore, but people are always on-the-go and so texts are more convenient to deal with. I guess texting is more popular at the start of relationships. More in-depth conversations do happen via phone, but even then a quick message like "Nyhavn @ 8?" goes via text.
33 might be bordering on the previous generation where calling is still the way though.
