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Men who watch porn are less happy in their relationships
By Simone Paget, Special to Postmedia Network
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Guys, if you're dissatisfied with your current relationship, you might want to press pause on the porn. According to a new study published in the journal Human Communication Research, men - but not women - who watch porn may be less satisfied in their relationships.
This study surveyed 50 previous studies that looked at the effects of porn, which included data from over 50,000 people around the world. In some cases participants were asked about their porn viewing habits, while in others they were exposed to explicit material in a lab setting. Most of the studies asked participants about their happiness in their current relationship and how sexually satisfied they were.
While the researchers found no connection between women's porn-watching habits and their happiness in relationships, they discovered a strong connection between men's porn-viewing habits and lesser happiness in their relationships — both sexually and generally.
The researchers identified several theories for men's porn-linked unhappiness. For example, men are reportedly more likely to watch porn alone than with a partner, which can be isolating and can create unrealistic expectations when it comes to real life partnered sex. However, the researchers are also careful to point out that just because watching porn has been linked to relationship unhappiness, it doesn’t necessarily cause it - it could be that men who watch porn are more likely to be unhappy in their relationships in the first place.
I don’t think porn on it’s own is necessarily the problem here, but rather how we consume and digest it. In many cases, pornography provides a healthy way to explore our sexual curiosity and enjoy our sexualities with or without partners. However, porn has the potential to become destructive when we fail to acknowledge that it’s essentially a fantasy and not an instruction manual for real-life sexual encounters.
Porn presents a very unreal reality - a hairless universe where everyone is turned on easily and ready to go all the time. Real life sex is much more complex, imperfect and dare I say, messy - emotionally and physically. While porn does a great job at showcasing specific sexual acts that ultimately result in a satisfying money shot, it does not provide a great model for actual intimacy between two human beings.
Since reentering the dating scene five years ago, I've seen first hand the effects the proliferation of internet porn has had on a generation of men. It has influenced the way some men talk in the bedroom, the kind of sex men want (or expect) to have and the kind of sex they think women want (assumptions which can be at times, comically off base.)
A few years ago, I was in bed with a former partner when he said something that sounded like it was pulled from the script of an adult film. It felt so bizarre, inauthentic and out of context that I had to suppress laughter.
“So, I take it you learned that from porn?” I asked him.
“Yes, and I can tell you loved it!” he replied.
I really didn't.
Luckily these kinds of erotic misunderstandings can be straightened out with mature, open communication and a dash of humour. However, when one partner fails to speak up or they express their discomfort and their needs continue to be ignored by the other person, it can lead to feelings of alienation, rejection and resentment.
Also, we need to talk about screen time. It doesn't matter if you're watching pornography, playing video games or binge watching every episode of Law and Order ever made - if you’d rather engage with a screen than your partner, your relationship is going to suffer.
It's easy to interpret the above mentioned study as yet another sign that modern romance is dead, but I see it as a wake-up call. While, I'm not suggesting that we stop watching porn altogether, we could all benefit from taking a break from our screens to connect with our partners. As a wise man named Ferris Bueller once said, “life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.”
http://www.recorder.ca/2017/03/23/me...&ICID=ref_fark
Men who watch porn are less happy in their relationships
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Guys, if you're dissatisfied with your current relationship, you might want to press pause on the porn. According to a new study published in the journal Human Communication Research, men - but not women - who watch porn may be less satisfied in their relationships.
This study surveyed 50 previous studies that looked at the effects of porn, which included data from over 50,000 people around the world. In some cases participants were asked about their porn viewing habits, while in others they were exposed to explicit material in a lab setting. Most of the studies asked participants about their happiness in their current relationship and how sexually satisfied they were.
While the researchers found no connection between women's porn-watching habits and their happiness in relationships, they discovered a strong connection between men's porn-viewing habits and lesser happiness in their relationships — both sexually and generally.
The researchers identified several theories for men's porn-linked unhappiness. For example, men are reportedly more likely to watch porn alone than with a partner, which can be isolating and can create unrealistic expectations when it comes to real life partnered sex. However, the researchers are also careful to point out that just because watching porn has been linked to relationship unhappiness, it doesn’t necessarily cause it - it could be that men who watch porn are more likely to be unhappy in their relationships in the first place.
I don’t think porn on it’s own is necessarily the problem here, but rather how we consume and digest it. In many cases, pornography provides a healthy way to explore our sexual curiosity and enjoy our sexualities with or without partners. However, porn has the potential to become destructive when we fail to acknowledge that it’s essentially a fantasy and not an instruction manual for real-life sexual encounters.
Porn presents a very unreal reality - a hairless universe where everyone is turned on easily and ready to go all the time. Real life sex is much more complex, imperfect and dare I say, messy - emotionally and physically. While porn does a great job at showcasing specific sexual acts that ultimately result in a satisfying money shot, it does not provide a great model for actual intimacy between two human beings.
Since reentering the dating scene five years ago, I've seen first hand the effects the proliferation of internet porn has had on a generation of men. It has influenced the way some men talk in the bedroom, the kind of sex men want (or expect) to have and the kind of sex they think women want (assumptions which can be at times, comically off base.)
A few years ago, I was in bed with a former partner when he said something that sounded like it was pulled from the script of an adult film. It felt so bizarre, inauthentic and out of context that I had to suppress laughter.
“So, I take it you learned that from porn?” I asked him.
“Yes, and I can tell you loved it!” he replied.
I really didn't.
Luckily these kinds of erotic misunderstandings can be straightened out with mature, open communication and a dash of humour. However, when one partner fails to speak up or they express their discomfort and their needs continue to be ignored by the other person, it can lead to feelings of alienation, rejection and resentment.
Also, we need to talk about screen time. It doesn't matter if you're watching pornography, playing video games or binge watching every episode of Law and Order ever made - if you’d rather engage with a screen than your partner, your relationship is going to suffer.
It's easy to interpret the above mentioned study as yet another sign that modern romance is dead, but I see it as a wake-up call. While, I'm not suggesting that we stop watching porn altogether, we could all benefit from taking a break from our screens to connect with our partners. As a wise man named Ferris Bueller once said, “life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.”
http://wtvr.com/2018/05/09/compromising-video-email/?utm_source=fark&utm_medium=website&utm_content=link&ICI
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RICHMOND, Va. -- The Better Business Bureau warned of a blackmail email scam that popped up in a Richmond man's inbox.
The email included the victim's name in the subject line, followed by the words "compromising video."
The scammer wrote, "I have unpleasant news" and notified the receiver there was a virus on their computer after visiting a porn site.
In broken English, the letter read:
"Given Above mentioned software forced selfie camera of yours notebook computer. And this way I have black PR package against you. On that vidoerecord [sic] you flog the dummy."
The scammer then gives the victim two options - to pay $361 through an electronic online Bitcoin money account or the “evidence” would be sent to the victim’s friends and family.
Barry Moore, CEO and President of the Better Business Bureau serving Central Virginia, said there were several details that flagged the email as a scam to his employees.
"If Bitcoins are being asked it is because it's an international currency that’s recognized everywhere. If someone wants Bitcoins they're harder to trace than dollars," Moore explained.
In the email, the scammer admitted that English was not their native language.
"Bad grammar, bad spelling, bad punctuality, the syntax is off -- all of these are buzzwords for, 'I don’t know what I'm talking about, but I'm trying to take your money and shake you down,'" Moore said. "Don’t get involved in this."
Local law enforcement said they constantly receive reports of similar scams.
The email scam was similar to another CBS 6 reported on in 2017.
Then, an unwed and single Richmond man received a letter from someone claiming to have evidence that he cheated on his wife.
"Don’t hook and jab with these individuals," Moore warned. "They’re criminals and they’re trying to shake you down."
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RICHMOND, Va. -- The Better Business Bureau warned of a blackmail email scam that popped up in a Richmond man's inbox.
The email included the victim's name in the subject line, followed by the words "compromising video."
The scammer wrote, "I have unpleasant news" and notified the receiver there was a virus on their computer after visiting a porn site.
In broken English, the letter read:
"Given Above mentioned software forced selfie camera of yours notebook computer. And this way I have black PR package against you. On that vidoerecord [sic] you flog the dummy."
The scammer then gives the victim two options - to pay $361 through an electronic online Bitcoin money account or the “evidence” would be sent to the victim’s friends and family.
Barry Moore, CEO and President of the Better Business Bureau serving Central Virginia, said there were several details that flagged the email as a scam to his employees.
"If Bitcoins are being asked it is because it's an international currency that’s recognized everywhere. If someone wants Bitcoins they're harder to trace than dollars," Moore explained.
In the email, the scammer admitted that English was not their native language.
"Bad grammar, bad spelling, bad punctuality, the syntax is off -- all of these are buzzwords for, 'I don’t know what I'm talking about, but I'm trying to take your money and shake you down,'" Moore said. "Don’t get involved in this."
Local law enforcement said they constantly receive reports of similar scams.
The email scam was similar to another CBS 6 reported on in 2017.
Then, an unwed and single Richmond man received a letter from someone claiming to have evidence that he cheated on his wife.
"Don’t hook and jab with these individuals," Moore warned. "They’re criminals and they’re trying to shake you down."
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