I'd say most chicks would be pretty upset given this scenario. She was probably all excited about having a fun night, forgetting about her ex, and banging you all night like there's no tomorrow. But instead she shows up and can clearly tell you've been sleeping, which to her meant that you weren't all that excited about having a fun night and making her the #1 priority for the evening, which in turn said to her that if this guy isn't making me a priority right now when we first start dating then how in the hell is he going to treat me a year or even 5 years from now. You were probably in the shower with all that shit running through her head and she decided to bail. All that said, chicks are crazy, but this was the type of mistake you'd probably want to make after going out with someone ten+ times, not right at the beginning. Just my 2 cents.
OK, nice to hear the other side. I can accept that that's probably what happened, but I'll never fully relate to the thought process.
PS You think like a bitch
The bottom line for me, while I "feel" where coolbreeze is comin' from is the girl was aware of the circumstances. a). you had been up a bit late the night before, even in to the A.M. with her b). you'd had a trying and long day to follow up that prior late night c). you immediately got up, hit the shower accomplishing a mindboggling ready to go in just 11 minutes which....yeah...she wasn't around to see that last part but where is the Empathy on this female's part?
To me the fact that she found herself incapable of cutting you a break in these circumstances is enormously troubling. And suggests a level of selfishness on her part that is alarming.
If anything the fact that you caught a nap was a positive in this scenario as you'd have more energy while spending time with her rather than dragging ass. Would appear she did not consider that angle or if she did she landed on her own childish display of temper, one-upmanship being more a priority than being a reasonable empathetic human being under these circumstances.
Ba‘al Zəvûv;11117247 said:
This is all true. But in her mind all she saw was Harry Carey had to choose between, (impressing me/making me feel special/banging me) or sleep. And he chose to sleep. That's all she was thinking at the time. None of the other stuff mattered. Woman can be real bitches and even more selfish than men.
It depends truly only on yourself and how you feel about the situation. You can be on the defensive or you can just try and "make up" for it if that is your choosing.
It really has no bearing what the rest of us view it as other than if you would like to be judged on if you seem to be an asshole as the question presents? puff_>>
IMO though, since you wanted it, I think since you decided to post a thread about it you obviously are torn in between what was right or wrong. A few have made valid points that at least could be partially if not equally your fault and if anything that means you should be the "bigger man" and step up to the plate, IF she is worth it.
If not, next... :toast:
-murph
It really has no bearing what the rest of us view it as other than if you would like to be judged on if you seem to be an asshole as the question presents? puff_>>
IMO though, since you wanted it, I think since you decided to post a thread about it you obviously are torn in between what was right or wrong. A few have made valid points that at least could be partially if not equally your fault and if anything that means you should be the "bigger man" and step up to the plate, IF she is worth it.
If not, next... :toast:
-murph
