Anyone else ever have this problem with a particular woman? This is not good...

[Journeyman]

There's this girl I have known for about 6 months now, we met a while back, I got along great with her, it was a good thing from the start, felt like a match etc....

After about a week, I started having this fear that I would never be single anymore, so i would purposely distance myself from her...this went on for a few months, finally she got sick of me doing this and pretty much told me to get lost....it seemed I only wanted her when i couldn't have her.

Finally I started talking to her again, and now she's all into it again, and now I am having that same feeling again, that I can only get so close to her....and the thing is she's a pretty good catch, she does have a son though, the only real baggage, and I admit that does make me gunshy.

Do any of you guys have this happen to you, where you only want the woman until you can have her then you start pushing her away or am I just a complete retard?

:nohead: I can't live with her and can't quite get over her, this has become quite an issue for me.

 

[primetime21+]

i think its completely retarded and completely normal.

 

[Kiss1]

B) You're just a complete retard

 

[fathead]

Do any of you guys have this happen to you, where you only want the woman until you can have her then you start pushing her away?

Perfectly normal. This is the way it always works. Welcome to the human race.

 

[Insiders]

J-Man

ALL women have ONE purpose in life, and that is to find someone they can love, that will take care of there every need, and take care of THIER baggage.
Next a woman who has a child by someonelse, will Always put that child #1 on the totem pole. Its kinda like if You put her first, You will Always be second, No matter what. Been there done that !
Surely this is NOT a internet connection....is it?
You are haveing a Mixed emotional time and deceisions are hard to come by in that state of mind, the correct ones anyway.
Again Time well tell as it Always does in most matters.


JMHO ! With many years of experience!

 

[CY18]

I am only 20, but madly in love with a girl who loves me the way back.

All I can tell you is I believe if you don't let go and try and you don't think anyone else is coming around then go for it. You only live once and sometimes only love comes around once your life. I can understand how you feel since she has a kid, but if she got sick of you pushing her away and has a kid she must be real.

I am a total commitment type though. Not a run around and not every guy. There was a recent movie made Are We There Yet with Ice Cube and the girl he liked has two kids. The point of the movie was does it really matter or would you rather be with yourself the whole life.

If you really are falling for her don't be insecure. You can't always protect yourself. If she has been nice, respectful, loyal, and genuine why let go of that?

That's just my opinion as a man who only looks for a serious relationship and not the flavor of the month.

Chris

 

[CY18]

J-Man

ALL women have ONE purpose in life, and that is to find someone they can love, that will take care of there every need, and take care of THIER baggage.
Next a woman who has a child by someonelse, will Always put that child #1 on the totem pole. Its kinda like if You put her first, You will Always be second, No matter what. Been there done that !
Surely this is NOT a internet connection....is it?
You are haveing a Mixed emotional time and deceisions are hard to come by in that state of mind, the correct ones anyway.
Again Time well tell as it Always does in most matters.


JMHO ! With many years of experience!

After my mom and dad seperated 10 years ago she was left with me at 10 and my sister at 15. Didn't date or go out for 6 years. She took care of us herself by going back to work after 17 years. Not all women are like that.

 

[Journeyman]

This girl is not typical, she's never asked for anything from me, in fact I never offer up much in the beginning besides showing up somewhere and meeting them.

The thing is I do not want to be this way, I am George Costanza simple as that.

ucking:

 

[CY18]

Sounds like my girlfriend. There are real women in this world journeyman. I am not every guy again and have been hurt a lot by bitches, but not every girl is the same.

How long have you known her? Just curious.

To me love is all about sharing and sometimes it just is about us men comforting the girl we love.

I am not self centered though even with my accomplishments. I always do what I can for her and she approached me and asked me out. So there you go. We were friends for a long time before we got serious. If you have taken it slow than all I can say is maybe you should let yourself go.

You only live once.

 

[michael777]

i am 45,stick with gambling and forget the love crap,you will be much happier

 

[CY18]

i am 45,stick with gambling and forget the love crap,you will be much happier

Depends what kind of person you are. To each his own.

Might not have been the best board to ask this question to. Just my opinion.

 

[Insiders]

After my mom and dad seperated 10 years ago she was left with me at 10 and my sister at 15. Didn't date or go out for 6 years. She took care of us herself by going back to work after 17 years. Not all women are like that.

Ahhhhh point well made about the children. They will ALWAYS come first over a man. No Matter the age of the children or the relationship between man an woman.
And i assure you that your mother has much credit comeing for the role that she HAD to play.
But your mother was instilled at a early age to find a man, that being your father that she thought she could love an raise a family with.
ALL mothers intsill that very thing in thier daughters as they are growing up. NO disrepect in ANY direction here either.

 

[CY18]

Ahhhhh point well made about the children. They will ALWAYS come first over a man. No Matter the age of the children or the relationship between man an woman.
And i assure you that your mother has much credit comeing for the role that she HAD to play.
But your mother was instilled at a early age to find a man, that being your father that she thought she could love an raise a family with.
ALL mothers intsill that very thing in thier daughters as they are growing up. NO disrepect in ANY direction here either.

Yeah I agree. All I am saying is not all women are on the rebound that have a kid just to put the kid first. Women do want to be loved you know. My mom has a long time boyfriend, has her own income, works, etc. Not relying on any man to support her or me. Still live at home. College is across the street from where I live. Go figure.

 

[Journeyman]

Sounds like my girlfriend. There are real women in this world journeyman. I am not every guy again and have been hurt a lot by bitches, but not every girl is the same.

How long have you known her? Just curious.

To me love is all about sharing and sometimes it just is about us men comforting the girl we love.

I am not self centered though even with my accomplishments. I always do what I can for her and she approached me and asked me out. So there you go. We were friends for a long time before we got serious. If you have taken it slow than all I can say is maybe you should let yourself go.

You only live once.

Chris you're a good guy...I am not normal, or typical....I wish I was, I have never had any kind of addictions thank God, but this here problem of committing is probably my biggest problem....I have known her since last summer.

I will sit there and think 'ok I can stick with her, she is cool etc' then a couple hours later I will think ' but what will i do next time I see an attractive woman I am interested in'? I am not getting any younger either.

I know other guys have this problem...then i see guys like you, Blue Edwards , G Money, Dante say they have been happy with the same woman for years etc.

:nopityA:

 

[ChuckSims]

For the most part, you'll be the outsider. The woman & son will always be together, you on the other hand are disposable.

 

[CY18]

You know journeyman. If you over think things you will never be happy. Some of us on this forum over think wagering and then we bet the other side and lose and didn't go with our first instinct.

You either are or you are not happy. If you are not sure ask her the stuff you want to know that has made you insecure. If she is a real woman she will understand.

You can't delay these kind of things. Many people have problems letting themselves out there, but you aren't getting any younger if you get what I mean.

Chris

 

[CY18]

For the most part, you'll be the outsider. The woman & son will always be together, you on the other hand are disposable.

Well, if he married the girl he would be a step father. Who knows. Maybe they would have a kid. But yes Chuck. I know what you mean.

 

[Insiders]

Yeah I agree. All I am saying is not all women are on the rebound that have a kid just to put the kid first. Women do want to be loved you know. My mom has a long time boyfriend, has her own income, works, etc. Not relying on any man to support her or me. Still live at home. College is across the street from where I live. Go figure.

Chris. I really hope that we have this conversation again when you have about 30 more years on this earth. You seem like a very knowlegeable young man.
Another thing when, and if,you get married and you are listening to your wife telling your daughter the facts of life, and what to look for and what to lookout for. You might, just might change your mind.
Maybe this happened to me Only in this world...........nahhhhhhhh NO way! Have heard to many others in my life telling the same story about women with children. Hope things work out for ALL of us.

 

[docmercer--banned]

Michael77 has a point:

Ya get screwed by on a bet, ya dont have to explain it to anyone else ... and when ya win on a bet you dont have to share the winnings with anyone else

 

[Insiders]

For the most part, you'll be the outsider. The woman & son will always be together, you on the other hand are disposable.

WHY couldnt have i said that in SO few words ! Sounds like another Been there Done that story.