If someone tells you the color of the sky, all you have to do is look up and decide for yourself if you are willing to accept what they say (people have been known to describe the sky as grey; sometimes sunsets look red. . . ) Likewise, if someone tells you what color their skin is, you are free to accept or reject that based on what you see. If you are unable or unwilling to do that, it says much more about your failures, than hers
Wow that is deep