And not for nuttin', but I would be cheering every night when they leave for that taxi service gig.....Gives me (you) at least 45-60 min of peace & quiet....plus the day they stop doing it may well be the day he just stays for the night and next thing you know he's living in your house 24/7
I don't understand the part where your Daughter at 22 Can't drive him home at 11pm .. Also you didn't say how old the BF is ... the same ? younger ? or Older ?
Why doesn't he drive ? just can't afford a Car ?
Something like this happened to a friend of mine Years ago ... but the ages were different ( younger ) 17. My friend's deal was I'll drop you off, but you get a ride home. of course the Daughter said the BF's parents would drive her home ... but 9 out of 10 times they had to go back out to pick her up. * my friend was Also a Step-Dad, and it caused many many fights because he refused to pick her up.
I don't remember the Full outcome, but I do remember that my buddy got so pissed that he would go out and make sure he was Miles away from home so he wasn't asked
Why doesn't he drive ? just can't afford a Car ?
Something like this happened to a friend of mine Years ago ... but the ages were different ( younger ) 17. My friend's deal was I'll drop you off, but you get a ride home. of course the Daughter said the BF's parents would drive her home ... but 9 out of 10 times they had to go back out to pick her up. * my friend was Also a Step-Dad, and it caused many many fights because he refused to pick her up.
I don't remember the Full outcome, but I do remember that my buddy got so pissed that he would go out and make sure he was Miles away from home so he wasn't asked
I find this suspicious as well & what i was hinting at in my last sentence of my post further above.
I really didn't want to go there, but have any of you guys seen the movie Crazy Stupid Love, where the husband drives the babysitter home at night & the babysitter has a thing for him & makes advances?
3peet i hope that one night if your daughter for some reason cant ride along to take him home, that you don't allow your wife to take him herself.
Because if your daughter is sick, sleeping, or what have you, your wifeis gonna be like "well i always take him home, what's the problem?"
Dont be played for a fool.
Gotta keep your eyes open for anything these days fellas.
This is probably because the younger generation is so much smarter than those who came before them. A former (fired) moderator who posts under 2 different user names assured me it is so!
If only I had accomplished as much by 22 as living with my parents and not having a car or driver's license...
I can certainly see why people would agree with you and I am even somehow nearly successfully Remotely Brainwashed via barman's mystical "Live & Let Live", "Eradicate Stress by not concerning yourself with others" Vibe, Aura that his posts transfer but...
A Philosophy that's chief foundation Principle & Belief is:
"Just Kick Back and let whatever happens happen, concern yourself with nothing, attempt to Improve no one around you's Lives, Divorce Yourself completely from Concern about Everything" basically:
"Just Wash You Hands of Everything".
I don't know.........I kinda sense though that Deeper Dissection, Analysis of the barman philosophy is required to reach a valid conclusion, like, the same way you don't Cap Games based on just 1/10 of available information....
The Tranquil Exterior which is all we see via brief posts that reveal barman philosophy.....what lies beneath that exterior?
He has, on a few occasions, ventured past the just: "Aww fuck it, don't concern yourself with anything" exterior but not too many times.
Valid Question would be if the "Aww fuck it, don't concern yourself with anything" Philosophy is indeed "True Wisdom". There have been Prophets who suggested that at least some Form of this is just that.
For example: Buddha said: "Don't Worry about things that are beyond your Control to Change"
Good example of that is this ridiculous Anaheim Ducks/ Nashville Series.
And I do genuinely wish that I had any worthwile input on 3peet's situation here but its a tough question. As Hache Man alluded to....more info is needed on the BF's situation...
is he an obvious bum?
I did raise kids, some in the Stepdad role (of sorts, at least...gf with kids situation...not actually married) so I fully know deals like this are a total Minefield.
Which is why I reserve comment till I have more info on this 22 year old or whatever BF...
...how long has he been known to the family, how well do you know HIS parents, the environment over there...
.....why doesn't he have a fuckin car at 22? Does he work?
That is the crux of this problem, of course.
Why this 22 yr old has no car.
is he an obvious bum?
I did raise kids, some in the Stepdad role (of sorts, at least...gf with kids situation...not actually married) so I fully know deals like this are a total Minefield.
Which is why I reserve comment till I have more info on this 22 year old or whatever BF...
...how long has he been known to the family, how well do you know HIS parents, the environment over there...
.....why doesn't he have a fuckin car at 22? Does he work?
That is the crux of this problem, of course.
Why this 22 yr old has no car.
Good kid. Goes to school. Wants to join Military or Police Acadamy. His home / family life isn't great. Extremely troubled family dynamics. (e.g. no dad, mom has issues, etc). Frankly I got no prob w/ the kid. Don't say much to him, but got no problem either.
I take issue w/ my wife being too involved. Ever heard of the term, "Helicopter Mom"?? She goes all out . She's worried my daughter would get in an accident bringing him home which is why she doing all the chauffeuring with them. When I argue about it, Wife and daughters gang up and basically isolate me. They all go off and do stuff on their own.
It's stupid.
THAT would be quite a boring way to live.
In fact I give many things my concern and am extremely focused on many topics.
I simply decided to only give significant attention to things that make me feel good.
A bit diabolical...this attitude of deliberately feeling good and also deliberately ignoring anything that adds to discomfort.
I believe that my challenge with your Philosophy is that I mistake the level of Pacifism within it.
I perceive it as "turn the other cheek" to way too high a degree.
"turn the other cheek" serves only one side of a Slap and that is the Slapper.
I have trouble believing any God or Wise Man would advise men to allow themselves to be abused.
I have no problem believing that "turn the other cheek" would be a thing the Slapper would say that God or Wise Men said to do.
"Follow The Money".....as is said.
Maybe you are not as Pacifist as I think you are.
let me guess here... a 22 year old male with no car..Is he black ? and if the answer is yes, last thing you want is your daughter to be another ( victim ) cab driver....its really a bad look even though the media loves it....if the answer is no....tell him to step it up or use public transportation
