Anyone ever give up everything for a job?

[barman]

If you're honestly working "75 hours a week" and living alone, I would hope that you are making some fairly mad bank, in which case you can feel pretty good about building a strong base for yourself financially via sensible savings and investment (solid transportation and some kind of home ownership).

If you're NOT making pretty mad bank for that much time on the J.O.B., it might be worthy to reexamine how much value there is working 75 hours a week on this gig compared to working elsewhere (back home or in a 'fresh' location) for a more rational 50-55 hours a week combined with increased education and/or community service work.

 

[Kruser6]

If you're honestly working "75 hours a week" and living alone, I would hope that you are making some fairly mad bank, in which case you can feel pretty good about building a strong base for yourself financially via sensible savings and investment (solid transportation and some kind of home ownership).

If you're NOT making pretty mad bank for that much time on the J.O.B., it might be worthy to reexamine how much value there is working 75 hours a week on this gig compared to working elsewhere (back home or in a 'fresh' location) for a more rational 50-55 hours a week combined with increased education and/or community service work.

I am making pretty good money and I have saved up quite a bit of money since I have been here. The thing is all I used to care about was making money which ultimately got me out here. I was living at home, much happier, but not moving anywhere for my future. This gave me that opportunity but with much sacrifice. I guess I am here just asking myself if it is worth it. This company is based in my home town back in the midwest and if at the end of this job if I was to get to go back home I would just deal with the next 6 months. Thing is I am not probably going to get to go back to the midwest after this job.

 

[bellyputter]

People are losing jobs they've had for 20+ years, there are homeless epidemics in many major cities.. Millions of people are going to lose their homes in 2009..

You have it good.. Stop complaining.

I thought this guy was banned at the RX. :think2:

 

[punter]

What do you mean by the gypsy life?

When you said "construction superintendent" I assumed it was with a company that bids and builds over a large area.

Those guys move with the project.

 

[pats3peat]

the thing with volunteering is the people who volunteer are probably 90% eco-loving nerds.
so i wouldn't say its a great way to meet people.

maybe im just stereotyping

 

[barman]

I am making pretty good money and I have saved up quite a bit of money since I have been here. The thing is all I used to care about was making money which ultimately got me out here. I was living at home, much happier, but not moving anywhere for my future. This gave me that opportunity but with much sacrifice. I guess I am here just asking myself if it is worth it. This company is based in my home town back in the midwest and if at the end of this job if I was to get to go back home I would just deal with the next 6 months. Thing is I am not probably going to get to go back to the midwest after this job.

Well "savings" is a component I mentioned in last post. But I'd further suggest transferring some of this into sensible investment so that you can then get view a legitimate balance between what you've put out (75+ hour weeks) versus what you built in return.

Years from now you can then look back and get a good feeling of how you balanced this time period in your life

 

[barman]

the thing with volunteering is the people who volunteer are probably 90% eco-loving nerds.
so i wouldn't say its a great way to meet people.

You obviously have not given deep investigation to the wide variety of public service opportunities in any community.

I myself have volunteered in various venues going back 14 years now and can't really say that I've met very many "eco-loving nerds" (whatever the hell that is)

 

[pats3peat]

You obviously have not given deep investigation to the wide variety of public service opportunities in any community.

I myself have volunteered in various venues going back 14 years now and can't really say that I've met very many "eco-loving nerds" (whatever the hell that is)

basically an eco-loving nerd is a douchebag

 

[pats3peat]

I was just saying maybe volunteering isn't for everybody. Caring is sparing as the new saying goes. What are some of the good ones youve done bar?

 

[bigbet1234]

ive gave up one thing.......that was bonus whoring for my wife. shes a keeper fo'sho

Was at home in the midwest looking for a job about 6 months ago. I got offered a job 18 hours away from home working construction as a superintendent and I took the job.

I gave up my house(Renting it out now), family, friends, girlfriend for over a year, dog(Left with my parents), hunting(Avid hunter for 20 years, this is the first year I have missed opening day since I was 3), Softball(Played on 4 seperate softball teams, 1 team that took me years to finally get on).

Basically I find myself asking the question if it is even worth it. I am told I will be here until May on this job and then after that I don't know. I am completely depressed out here in this town. Going from having all of that to absolutely nothing has been really tough on me.

Have any of you been through something like this? How did it end up?

 

[barman]

I was just saying maybe volunteering isn't for everybody. Caring is sparing as the new saying goes. What are some of the good ones youve done bar?

As mentioned earlier - working with recovering substance abusers and in the field of drug education.

Also have given time to increasing literacy programs (upwards of 1/3 of American adults are functionally illiterate); and done service work with Special Olympics.

Though I've never done it personally, I also know that most hospitals offer a variety of public service opportunities that can fit most anyone's schedule since they are of course in operation 24/7/365

For INDK6 or anyone else with a decent knowledge of the construction business, Habitats For Humanity is another excellent outlet available in most major population areas.

 

[barman]

Oh and perhaps needless to add, but if you're affiliated with any kind of religious organization, there's quite likely a list of service opportunities within your church, synagouge or mosque that directly benefit the community at large as well as give you increased chances to fraternize with people who have shared spiritual beliefs.

 

[gbogo]

i left australia when I was 18 and have played sports/worked in financial markets all over the world since.

only thing I would change is I would have bought a house somewhere as a home base a few years ago. hotels/corporate apartments dont cut it after a while.

 

[eoghater]

ive gave up one thing.......that was bonus whoring for my wife. shes a keeper fo'sho

that is quite a sacrifice, stop scamming for the sake of your marriage. Big whoop.

 

[Iceman]

I can only imagine what that would be like.

As you probably know I packed up everything and moved 2,000 miles away to do what I have always wanted to do but even then it was somewhat hard. I keep thinking back to a buddy who did almost the exact same thing you do and left and moved 12 hours a way for a job. I think I wonder if it is worth it for him as I am sure he isnt getting much further ahead but he didnt want to quit and start back over in a town that is hard to find jobs. I give him (and you) credit. The only way I would have done it was for way more money. Hang in there and try anc accumulate every dollar you can so when this is over you can look back and feel it was worth it. The one problem is it takes a lot of time to save cash but over time it will happen. Good luck!!

 

[Kojack84]

I am making pretty good money and I have saved up quite a bit of money since I have been here. The thing is all I used to care about was making money which ultimately got me out here. I was living at home, much happier, but not moving anywhere for my future. This gave me that opportunity but with much sacrifice. I guess I am here just asking myself if it is worth it. This company is based in my home town back in the midwest and if at the end of this job if I was to get to go back home I would just deal with the next 6 months. Thing is I am not probably going to get to go back to the midwest after this job.

Nothing worth having ever came easy.

After I graduated, I worked in Syracuse for a brief time. The job was really laid back and comfortable, I knew a bunch of people in the city and was having a good time. Problem was there wasn't a whole lot of potential at my company, or even in that area for my career.

So on a whim, I got a job offer for my current position. MUCH larger company, huge potential to move up, much better pay, much nicer area, plus other things that are nice(foreign based company means I get to travel to Europe for free = :drink. Unfortunately I know only 2 people in the entire state of CT and they are 1+ hr away from me. I also work with older people(I'm only 24, theyre 30-40+) so I don't know a lot of people to go out drinking/gambling/whatever with.

But I look at it as this. I don't expect myself to live/work here forever. I will put my time in, get my experience and salary up, and then go after a better job in a better location(already looking at D.C. area). This current job is just a stepping stone for me to keep searching for my ideal job/location.

 

[Kruser6]

Nothing worth having ever came easy.

After I graduated, I worked in Syracuse for a brief time. The job was really laid back and comfortable, I knew a bunch of people in the city and was having a good time. Problem was there wasn't a whole lot of potential at my company, or even in that area for my career.

So on a whim, I got a job offer for my current position. MUCH larger company, huge potential to move up, much better pay, much nicer area, plus other things that are nice(foreign based company means I get to travel to Europe for free = :drink. Unfortunately I know only 2 people in the entire state of CT and they are 1+ hr away from me. I also work with older people(I'm only 24, theyre 30-40+) so I don't know a lot of people to go out drinking/gambling/whatever with.



But I look at it as this. I don't expect myself to live/work here forever. I will put my time in, get my experience and salary up, and then go after a better job in a better location(already looking at D.C. area). This current job is just a stepping stone for me to keep searching for my ideal job/location.

I hear exactly where you are coming from and this is exactly how I am taking this job. It's a stepping stone in my life to get where I really want to be, like you said it is very tough. Sometimes I look at all my friends at home and at this point they seem a lot happier. I know in the future though I will come out on top, but it is very hard sometimes to look past the present to the future. I am just trying to make the best of my current situation and keep working hard hoping that things work out for me. It definitely is the hardest thing I have ever done because of everything I have given up to come here.

 

[Kruser6]

I can only imagine what that would be like.

As you probably know I packed up everything and moved 2,000 miles away to do what I have always wanted to do but even then it was somewhat hard. I keep thinking back to a buddy who did almost the exact same thing you do and left and moved 12 hours a way for a job. I think I wonder if it is worth it for him as I am sure he isnt getting much further ahead but he didnt want to quit and start back over in a town that is hard to find jobs. I give him (and you) credit. The only way I would have done it was for way more money. Hang in there and try anc accumulate every dollar you can so when this is over you can look back and feel it was worth it. The one problem is it takes a lot of time to save cash but over time it will happen. Good luck!!

I give you credit too Ice, very tough thing for you to do what you did. I guess in a way your situation is a little better as you got to take someone with you. The only thing I took with me was my car and my George Foreman!!

 

[Kruser6]

When you said "construction superintendent" I assumed it was with a company that bids and builds over a large area.

Those guys move with the project.

Then yes I would be considered a gypsy worker

 

[HuskerFan1]

what happened with the girl, you 2 break up or doing long distance thing....personally i could never do the long distance thing....