OT - Do you get tired of the same woman eventually?

[ElIguana]

4 prerequisites to a happy marraige:

1. Don't even think about it before you're 21.
2. Don't even think about it before you've dated for at least 1 year, preferably 2-3 years.
3. Find a mate with similar sex drive to yours (I'm not joking) and who's not just doing it for you, that $hit will change after kids come along!

And the biggest one....
4. Find a mate who is ALREADY happy. So many women think they'll be happy once ______ happens, when the truth is if they're not already happy now they never will be.

 

[charliepeete]

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TWENTY SIX YEARS AND BEEN WITH HER FOR THIRTY FIVE YEARS... HIGH SCHOOL...SWEETHEARTS......................................STILL IN LOVERuppy:

 

[JudgeWapner]

You may get tired of sex with the same woman, but you won't get tired of the woman if you pick the right one.

 

[TheRightSide]

If she won't let you have HRA don't do it.


lmao just kidding do not get married till you are 28 atleast. Do not have kids right away.

 

[GameBreaker]

I hope you find the same kind of love that charliepeete has found with that laughing dog at the end of every one of his posts.

 

[Rawpimple]

I agree with not getting married until you are in your late 20s-early 30s. It takes some time to grow up, know who you are, and experience life. Sure there are people who are high school sweethearts and make it but those are few and far between.

Relationships are about communication, honesty, making and keeping agreements and being adult (level headed).

People spend far more time planning their wedding than they do actually sitting down and finding out, is this the one for me. Ask questions about the big topics: children, sexual compatibility, in laws, religion, finances. These are the main points people fight about and there are a zillion questions you must ask each other under these topics and others. There is a good book out there, something like Questions to ask before marriage and you can get some examples of questions you should be asking each other. You do not have to agree on everything but can you make agreements on these topics and its important to keep your agreements. This is the unromantic stuff people skip over and do not want to talk about before marriage. Instead its the wedding, the honeymoon, the dress, and the food. If you want a much better chance at a successful, long, and happy marriage, this is one of the things you should do. Divorce is 1 in 2 but think of how many people out there are married and just are not happy. Someone told me once that if you are happy 60 percent of the time in your marriage, its a good marriage. Sitting down and addressing major issues and minor ones before marriage is really a good way to answer the question, is this the one I want to be with. You cannot really do that after 6 months together. It takes time to get to know one another. To go through some tough times. To make aggrements and hold to them.

Sorry if I ranted some but I am one that does not take marriage lightly at all.

 

[Sugarbear]

And the biggest one....
4. Find a mate who is ALREADY happy. So many women think they'll be happy once ______ happens, when the truth is if they're not already happy now they never will be.



Exactly El Inguana.


Once this happens is a never ending thing and is viewed to be the mans responsiblity to care of.

 

[BlackBart]

Rawpimple--great post!

One of the biggest problems in this country is that people take marriage too lightly. Some people spend more time picking out an automobile than they do a spouse. As a result, we have sky high divorce rate and the kids are the ones that pay the price. I see a divorced couple at one of my kids sporting events and the whole interaction between them and their son is horrible: arriving in separate cares, arguing about who takes Junior home like he was a bag of baseballs. Makes me sick.

My wife and I have been married for 16 years and every day is better than the last. We've been through a lot together, but we've grown together. A lot of give and take, as someone mentioned earlier Very important. I love my kids, but I'm also looking very forward to the day that they leave and it's just her and I again. Should be a lot of fun.

 

[assassin]

Some good posts.

My advise is you first need to really understand who YOU are and what are the things that are now and will be important to you in the future.

Do not make the mistake of thinking your spouse will really CHANGE, most people do not change that much. She is who she is, her problems will always be her problems, her attitudes will most liekly stay the same. The NURTURE is pretty much complete, depends on what her parentsdid/did not do.

My wife made an asture comment about a year ago "I do not think I really knew you when we got married". It is true for both of us.

 

[ElIguana]

A man gets married hoping that his wife will not change.

A woman gets married hoping that her husband will change.

Both are usually very disappointed.


90% of your happiness or sadness in life will be a direct result of your choice of whom to make your spouse. Too many people make this decision too lightly.

 

[Insiders]

You may get tired of sex with the same woman, but you won't get tired of the woman if you pick the right one.

Not to mention that once you get some age on you the sex drive will not be a top agenda to your daily life.
Next thing i would advise young people is DONT rush to have children and take ALL steps of course to see this just doenst happen by accident or whatever.
Last but certainly Not least. Find a woman that you enjoy talking too, cause someday in the future conversation is more than you might think at a young age. It becomes Very high on the profile list !!!

JMHO

 

[jasin4000]

4 prerequisites to a happy marraige:

1. Don't even think about it before you're 21.
2. Don't even think about it before you've dated for at least 1 year, preferably 2-3 years.
3. Find a mate with similar sex drive to yours (I'm not joking) and who's not just doing it for you, that $hit will change after kids come along!

And the biggest one....
4. Find a mate who is ALREADY happy. So many women think they'll be happy once ______ happens, when the truth is if they're not already happy now they never will be.

WOW. Nice info here...#4 couldnt be more true(especially in my relationship)...Im 20 yrs old and I just got done with a 2 1/2 relationship, was really rough, but ill find another right?:monsters-

 

[5teamparlay]

Thank goodness for Viagra...

 

[busterhyman]

Thank goodness for Viagra...

c'mon man...put the pill down and man up...lol

 

[unusualsusp11]

just look at her mother. that is what she will turn into eventually. if the mother went south so will she. you should be able to trade in wives like cars. wives depreciate just as fast.

 

[Seymour]

WOW. Nice info here...#4 couldnt be more true(especially in my relationship)...Im 20 yrs old and I just got done with a 2 1/2 relationship, was really rough, but ill find another right?:monsters-

Yes, u will find another - a lot more than one

 

[Doug]

J Girls had it right decades ago

Love Stinks !

And Axl Rose...

I used to love her, now I want to kill her

AC/ DC

Dirty Deeds done dirt cheap

Never get married, you'll be technically common lawed married in many states anyway after a certain number of years cohabitating ( 7 ?), And most importantly do not father any children !, Get a vasectomy or something.

A marriage is like renting an apartment or even buying a house, you'll be somewhere else in 10-15-25 years !

 

[Doug]

just look at her mother. that is what she will turn into eventually. if the mother went south so will she. you should be able to trade in wives like cars. wives depreciate just as fast.

Looking at mother is excellent advice ,sir !

Lots of celebrity type women looked great at like 20, and went to Hell by 30, like a

Sally Strothers

Some go a bit longer like a

Kirstie Alley, Farrah Fawcett type, but look bad in their forties.

It's rare to find a woman that looks nearly as good at 50-60, as she did at 35, like a

Barbara Eden
Jacqueline Smith
Type

 

[Willie99]

The biggest reason for divorces

Women get married thinking their men are going to change, and they don't. Men get married thinking their women are NOT going to change, and they do.

I like that advice about finding a happy woman, solid. I told my kids to find their soulmate, YOU HAVE TO BE BEST FRIENDS FIRST

 

[Willie99]

PS: if a girl is a bitch while you're dating, fucking run as fast as you can