Need advice boys...

[vegasisstilldead]

Guys, I know this is not sports related but i am hoping by polling the boards i will get some good feedback.Here is the situation:
I am 37 and have a wife and 2 small children.We are from NY My wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. The girl is 20 and a piece of garbage. She is the kind of person who just uses people and is selfish as the day is long.She steals, shos no respect and already had full blown herpes by 17.She lived with us to 16 until she stole a expensive sports card from at which time i kicked her out and she went to her father.
We have moved away and back to Ny a few times over the last 4 years. She (and others) had told me she had straightened herself out and really wanted to be around her mom. I decided that we would give her another chance and moved back to ny. She visited only 4 times in 2 months each time asking for money. I said screw this packed up our stuff and moved out of ny for good.This sunday passed and she didn't bother to wish her mother a happy mothers day. While some may not seem anything serious about it i look at it as a lack of respect and am a hardass when it comes to that. I show respect and hate it when its not given. I went off on her in an email (she has no phone only email thru her job) and received a reply from her drug addict punk ass boyfriend saying that he will "f" me up blah,blah,blah..Here is where i need the advice.What should i do?
Immediately (as a native ny'er hot head) my first thought was to jump in my truck and drive up there and bash his head in with a bat. My wife is telling me to let it go and don't worry about it. I have the "means" to have something done for me from where i am but kind of screwed up when i was talking to my wife's sister trying to get this punks address and told her maybe too much. I have calmed down a little but this punk told me he would "come and get me" (which i find comical as he doesn't even have a car) and made veiled threats against my kids. I am hoping i could get some feedback and advice.what would you do?Don't hold back and i appreciate the help..

 

[sherman]

leave it alone, don't communicate with your step daughter anymore and life goes on.....good luck,.....

 

[Noreaga+]

you want advice on whether or not to bash someones head in with a bat?

you *******.

I think for shitts n giggles we should turn his IP into the police along with this post.

 

[Trendsetter+]

1. I think she didnt wish her mom a happy mother's day becuz u Kick her out and mom dont hav anything to say and she is her daught... so she properly thinks her mom hate her 2


2. u should take that email to the freakin police

3. what ur wife has to say about all this?

4. what the helll a grown asss woman wants to still be with her mom plz

 

[vegasisstilldead]

Noreaga,
anyone ever threaten to kill your 3 year old daughter?How would you react?

 

[Noreaga+]

no...and you didnt mention that...

regardless you obviously have no intention of doing anything, otherwise you wouldnt be talking about it.

 

[RobFunk]

You pay her too much mind Vegas.


I guess I understand about the whole respect thing.

But why worry over it when the person you are trying to get it from is a known POS?

 

[michael777]

vegas,can i have her phone number?arty:

 

[vegasisstilldead]

I appreciate the feedback guys. Michael, believe me you (even if she had a phone) you don't want it.the girl is total $hit.

 

[Trendsetter+]

vegas,can i have her phone number?arty:

he saidb earlier that she has no phone the only contact is her e add...

didnt u read his entire story

 

[michael777]

he saidb earlier that she has no phone the only contact is her e add...

didnt u read his entire story

nope

 

[coconutman]

Let that kid come to you.. and smack him around.

 

[urstupid1234]

vegas,can i have her phone number?arty:

NIce to see someone with a sense of humor. :lolBIG:

 

[urstupid1234]

Guys, I know this is not sports related but i am hoping by polling the boards i will get some good feedback.Here is the situation:
I am 37 and have a wife and 2 small children.We are from NY My wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. The girl is 20 and a piece of garbage. She is the kind of person who just uses people and is selfish as the day is long.She steals, shos no respect and already had full blown herpes by 17.She lived with us to 16 until she stole a expensive sports card from at which time i kicked her out and she went to her father.
We have moved away and back to Ny a few times over the last 4 years. She (and others) had told me she had straightened herself out and really wanted to be around her mom. I decided that we would give her another chance and moved back to ny. She visited only 4 times in 2 months each time asking for money. I said screw this packed up our stuff and moved out of ny for good.This sunday passed and she didn't bother to wish her mother a happy mothers day. While some may not seem anything serious about it i look at it as a lack of respect and am a hardass when it comes to that. I show respect and hate it when its not given. I went off on her in an email (she has no phone only email thru her job) and received a reply from her drug addict punk ass boyfriend saying that he will "f" me up blah,blah,blah..Here is where i need the advice.What should i do?
Immediately (as a native ny'er hot head) my first thought was to jump in my truck and drive up there and bash his head in with a bat. My wife is telling me to let it go and don't worry about it. I have the "means" to have something done for me from where i am but kind of screwed up when i was talking to my wife's sister trying to get this punks address and told her maybe too much. I have calmed down a little but this punk told me he would "come and get me" (which i find comical as he doesn't even have a car) and made veiled threats against my kids. I am hoping i could get some feedback and advice.what would you do?Don't hold back and i appreciate the help..

V,

Its a fvcked up situation.. but what are you gonna do.. I mean its not your kid. You know what i mean. So if she didn't contact your wife on mothers day... There's nothing you can do. You put yourself in that situation when you married someone who's already got kids with someone else. Most of the time.. that causes problems.. Even though you're her step dad. You're not really her dad so i guess just stay out of it. Cuz if you don't then it might cause problems between your wife & yourself.

As far as the Boyfriend goes, Just ignore him. He's young and doesn't know any better. Most of the time young kids talk shi t. It doesn't mean they're actually gonna do it. Take it easy.

UR

 

[vegasisstilldead]

urstupid, makes sense what you are saying and i appreciate it..mothers day was the straw that broke the camels back.there is other stuff that i swallowed.

 

[sherman]

777, that's funny....

 

[urstupid1234]

urstupid, makes sense what you are saying and i appreciate it..mothers day was the straw that broke the camels back.there is other stuff that i swallowed.

Yea its not your fault cuz you're just looking out for your spouse...But trust me.. In the end you'll end up being the bad guy so its better to stay out of it all togeather. Just a young "tough talking" kid. Not worth it.

Good Luck

 

[michael777]

777, that's funny....

thanks sherman,even a ******* like me has a good line once in a while

 

[VeNuS]

vegasisstilldead,
let me tell you couple things, I´m young, and I´ve made plenty of mistakes, but I would never let any punk threat my family, even worse, my 3 year old half-brother. No call for mothers day... well, you´ll just have to listen to whatever she has to say, and then judge.
I think your wife is going though a very difficult time, she must feel very embarrased and I bet she hates giving you such headaches. Please, be as supportive as you have been, she needs you.

It´s up to you guys which way you consider is best for all, but if you care for her happiness, I suggest you seek for proffesional help.
If you still think you can save your step-daughter, you should all sit and talk like grown ups, if the girl decides she wants to change, then offer help and I mean PROFFESIONAL help, good therapy. But she needs to be aware of this:
N O T H I N G i s f o r F R E E.
No parties, no junkie punks around the house, study, work, and adhere to a healthy family environment. (all this ONLY if she is willing to give her best)
As for the mf, I´d go to the police and get restraining orders, you may not need them now, and hopefully not at all, but is always good to prevent any further issues.

I tell you all this because is was raised by my step-daddy and I truly love him and respect him 1 million times more than I would ever respect my biological dad. I think you are doing a great job.

Bitey

 

[urstupid1234]

vegasisstilldead,
let me tell you couple things, I´m young, and I´ve made plenty of mistakes, but I would never let any punk threat my family, even worse, my 3 year old half-brother. No call for mothers day... well, you´ll just have to listen to whatever she has to say, and then judge.
I think your wife is going though a very difficult time, she must feel very embarrased and I bet she hates giving you such headaches. Please, be as supportive as you have been, she needs you.

It´s up to you guys which way you consider is best for all, but if you care for her happiness, I suggest you seek for proffesional help.
If you still think you can save your step-daughter, you should all sit and talk like grown ups, if the girl decides she wants to change, then offer help and I mean PROFFESIONAL help, good therapy. But she needs to be aware of this:
N O T H I N G i s f o r F R E E.
No parties, no junkie punks around the house, study, work, and adhere to a healthy family environment. (all this ONLY if she is willing to give her best)
As for the mf, I´d go to the police and get restraining orders, you may not need them now, and hopefully not at all, but is always good to prevent any further issues.

I tell you all this because is was raised by my step-daddy and I truly love him and respect him 1 million times more than I would ever respect my biological dad. I think you are doing a great job.

Bitey

Leave it up to a bitc h to make any situation melowdramatic. This bit ch says shi t so stupid makes my head spin. Just finish your burger. :hammerit:neenee: :neenee: :smashf: :smashf: