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Being married for 18 years myself-Here's how i handle it.
1-Don't hide it,just tell her you bet $50 on the tv games
1-If you lose tell her you broke out even
2-If you win tell her you won $200 and give her half
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I swear I was born out of the same mold as jerseymike and Swami ...I already do that
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LOL...Sooo true Dante.
Here's my deal Chooch-
My wife knows I gamble often and the amounts vary. She doesn't have much of an idea of the $$$ impact but knows that I'm net positive. I buy her a few nice things once in a while and self fund various expenditures/trips so no funds come out of our investments/savings etc. and all is good. The only time she has seen dollars in play is when we go to a casino together (which is rare).
Bottom line, it depends on your relationship. My wife knew I was a gambler when she met me and I made it clear that there were a few things I would not really change for any woman since these things provide enjoyment and keep me relatively sane.
In the end, she wants me to be happy and gambling is one thing I find fun and generally enjoy. It's a hobby. If I ever began to lose amounts that impacted my wife's (and future family's) well being (and I could not/would not stop), I expect her to divorce me and do it quick.
I came clean about the frequency and some of the $$ since I was tired of the whispered conversations in the bedroom on Saturdays and Sundays and the ALT-TAB switches on the PC. She actually thought I may have been cheating (thanks Rx)....at that point I figure fvck this...I'm not going to be accused of tagging some 21 year old if I'm not doing it
and she knows I gamble so just get the frequency in the open.
It is soooo much better now. She asks about lines and poker stuff, how I'm doing and I realized that.....
I'M AN IDIOT...ALL SHE WANTED WANTED WAS TO UNDERSTAND AND SHARE (emotionally) IN WHAT EXCITED ME DURING SOME OF THOSE GAMES AND TOOK UP SOME OF MY TIME.
That's it plain and simple. She's a smart gal and just wanted to understand what the hell was going on. She does't ask for a thing but I voluntarily do some things for her.
One caveat, as mentioned above, she says that if my gambling ever became more than a hobby and became a "problem" then we have issues. That's fair.
Chooch, if you have a good relationship, tell her. If not, solve your relationship problems first then figure out what to do about the gambling.
Then again...what the hell do I know, I've only been married for 3.5 years.
