Judge and Kaya, thanks a lot. Nice sentiments.
Blight: With all due respect, the single most important thing I can give to my child is a sense of self-worth ... if I had your attitude, and my child turned out to be gay, I would have robbed them of that.
I understand the importance of a father figure. I was a total tomboy growing up and was practically chained to my dad. I live only fifteen minutes away from him, so trust me, my child will have the influence, too.
One significant difference between children of single mothers whose father is simply absent and children of single mothers who never knew their father is the sense of abandonment. My child will never think that someone just took off because things were too tough. They won't carry that guilt around with them. Trust me, I've been thinking this thing through for many years.
But, my point is simply that parenting isn't about sexual orientation. Kids don't know anything about that until they're at least six or seven. By then, their sense of self-worth and their place in the world will largely be embedded.
Edited to add: uh, yeah, still would rather do it the traditional way. Just for the record. I'm not a fan of taking out the garbage and I don't have a table saw.
Blight: With all due respect, the single most important thing I can give to my child is a sense of self-worth ... if I had your attitude, and my child turned out to be gay, I would have robbed them of that.
I understand the importance of a father figure. I was a total tomboy growing up and was practically chained to my dad. I live only fifteen minutes away from him, so trust me, my child will have the influence, too.
One significant difference between children of single mothers whose father is simply absent and children of single mothers who never knew their father is the sense of abandonment. My child will never think that someone just took off because things were too tough. They won't carry that guilt around with them. Trust me, I've been thinking this thing through for many years.
But, my point is simply that parenting isn't about sexual orientation. Kids don't know anything about that until they're at least six or seven. By then, their sense of self-worth and their place in the world will largely be embedded.
Edited to add: uh, yeah, still would rather do it the traditional way. Just for the record. I'm not a fan of taking out the garbage and I don't have a table saw.
