Hell when I first got married my best friend was over more than when I was single.
He's show up Friday night for poker and would not leave till after the ESPN Sunday night game was over eating all our food,he loved my wife's cooking though he just loved food in front of him on a platter.
So when he finally gets married he lives in a fucking cocoon,his wife hates me as guess I was a threat to her.
He didn't want a bachelor party,he got married in Vegas and when I arrived I call him and say were here lets go out and kick some ass.
He say's were welcome to come up to his room...........WTF
My wife is a saint!
He's show up Friday night for poker and would not leave till after the ESPN Sunday night game was over eating all our food,he loved my wife's cooking though he just loved food in front of him on a platter.
So when he finally gets married he lives in a fucking cocoon,his wife hates me as guess I was a threat to her.
He didn't want a bachelor party,he got married in Vegas and when I arrived I call him and say were here lets go out and kick some ass.
He say's were welcome to come up to his room...........WTF
My wife is a saint!
a few observations
#1) kids change everything thats just the way it goes so you cant hold a grudge bc friends decide to start a family...this is like the automatic #1 lifechanger so deal with it...
#2) there has to be a little give and take in any relationship...i adore my gf but she knows i need my guy time too...the great thing is she understands that...hell lately that has been me and a couple of my good friends just going to the local bar down the street watching the football games and playing keno on or going into boston and just hitting up a couple dive bars for beers and music and food on a thursday/saturday night or a sunday funday when the weather is nice....the same goes for her when she has girls night out...
i dont know how anyone would want to spend every night with their significant other (and i am crazy about my gf)...i love being able to sit at the bar and talk to my buddies about this that and the other and not worry about what might come out of my mouth LOL
i am 31 not married w/ no kids but have a serious gf....
#1) kids change everything thats just the way it goes so you cant hold a grudge bc friends decide to start a family...this is like the automatic #1 lifechanger so deal with it...
#2) there has to be a little give and take in any relationship...i adore my gf but she knows i need my guy time too...the great thing is she understands that...hell lately that has been me and a couple of my good friends just going to the local bar down the street watching the football games and playing keno on or going into boston and just hitting up a couple dive bars for beers and music and food on a thursday/saturday night or a sunday funday when the weather is nice....the same goes for her when she has girls night out...
i dont know how anyone would want to spend every night with their significant other (and i am crazy about my gf)...i love being able to sit at the bar and talk to my buddies about this that and the other and not worry about what might come out of my mouth LOL
i am 31 not married w/ no kids but have a serious gf....
Seymour,
Your friends need to grow some nuts and prioritize their friends into their lives. It will never be like it was when you were single, and you need to understand that (which I think you do), but they also need to make an effort. When you start dating someone, and certainly when you get married, priorities and responsibilities change. They change further when you have kids.
Having said that, IMO people need to maintain their individual lives, separate time and friends. I love my wife, I love my kids, I love spending time with all of them and wouldn't want my life to be without them, but I still make time for my friends and do shit without my family. My wife does the same.
We have plenty of responsibilities and time that has to be dedicated and focused to our family, but there is still time for friends and personal time. Between play groups, birthday parties, dance practice, soccer and all the other shit that comes along with having a child, time is limited. Child care is another issue for a lot of people with kids.
Frankly, they need to make an effort and you should tell them that. I don't see my friends as much as I used to, or would like to, but I still make an effort and do see them regularly. You also need to understand they have other priorities and responsibilities that will take precedent (and let them know that), but that god f*ing damn it, they should grow some stones and hang out with you periodically.
Your friends need to grow some nuts and prioritize their friends into their lives. It will never be like it was when you were single, and you need to understand that (which I think you do), but they also need to make an effort. When you start dating someone, and certainly when you get married, priorities and responsibilities change. They change further when you have kids.
Having said that, IMO people need to maintain their individual lives, separate time and friends. I love my wife, I love my kids, I love spending time with all of them and wouldn't want my life to be without them, but I still make time for my friends and do shit without my family. My wife does the same.
We have plenty of responsibilities and time that has to be dedicated and focused to our family, but there is still time for friends and personal time. Between play groups, birthday parties, dance practice, soccer and all the other shit that comes along with having a child, time is limited. Child care is another issue for a lot of people with kids.
Frankly, they need to make an effort and you should tell them that. I don't see my friends as much as I used to, or would like to, but I still make an effort and do see them regularly. You also need to understand they have other priorities and responsibilities that will take precedent (and let them know that), but that god f*ing damn it, they should grow some stones and hang out with you periodically.
So my best friend/man as I spoke of earlier in thread,just a couple weeks ago he's e-mailing me asking me if I'm taking my family on this ski/super sunday trip I e-mailed out to everyone and I say hell no.........LOL
Anyway were e-mailing back and forth and I send him link to msn messenger he registers and we talk/chat.......
Cock sucker he has not been on since that one time.
Last seen signing off 2 weeks 1 hour and 37 minutes ago.
Probably got busted talking to me
hno:This guy used to live in the card rooms in our prime and he's saying if he comes would have to bring the wife and mentioned he wouldn't be playing cards for hours on end.
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