Others' actions have no real effect on your hand, IMO, so PO is correct.
Taking away cards from the other player(s) in a nice + shoe, is a legit gripe.
I don't play shoes too much, but don't many places force you to wait, so you can't always enter at a good time ?
I find old Asian women to be the worst players to have at your table, when you make a close call like not doubling on 11, or standing on a 16 vs. 10, etc. If your ( correct counting) move causes a dealer 21.... they have something to say. I ran into one of these last week playing double deck. She would get all pissed off if I dropped back from 2 hands to one ( once the deck got negative). We exchanged a lot of nasty words. Dealers, bosses and players enjoyed our mutual hatred of each other immensely !