stay as long as you'd like. my one aunt never moved out. owns over a million in property and could retire with a pension if she wasnt worried about being bored. there are losers who stay at home forever. but there are also smart successful people who stay put. only in america is drowning in debt to say you live on your own normal. just stay point and don't be a piece of shit. family is the most important thing anyway.
My kids are about to be 13 and 11. For selfish reasons i'd like to say as soon as possible cause me and the wife are excited to start a life without kids that can involve a lot more things that we would like to do. In reality what we will probably do is try to encourage the first 2 years of college at the local community college, cause the cost of college these days is just fucking ridiculous. Even after they graduate I doubt we would have a problem if they come home for a couple years while they are just starting their life as long as they are doing shit the right way: IE, having a real job, saving a good chunk of that money for their future house ect, not living like its still college life. Basically as long as they are acting like an adult I'd have no problem is they stayed for 2-3 years to try and save serious money for downpayment on a house or something like that. If they want to just go out and party and blow a whole paycheck at the tittie bar then they can get the fuck out.
my daughter is 3 and my son is due in december so very early on for me but to me as long as you have a plan, a productive one, then as long as you want. i moved back home for my last year of college when i was part time and paying my own way. only had a semester to go and commuted an hour to college 3 days a week and worked the other 4 bartending. graduated and moved out for good at 21. my parents helped me with my downpayment on my first home. when i moved back in my parents made it very clear to me that they were happy to have me live at home but not just for the sake of me hanging around and bullshitting. my dad asked my plan, i didnt have one at the time but we came up with one. they guided me on my way and then i was better for it. as long as your working towards something than its fine, once your just living there and not progressing your a loser and need to move along. i have a family member reaching that now, not immediate so i cant speak up. lives at home, girlfriend stays over most nights but she is a loser too. parents dont know when he is gonna get his shit together and want anything more than a paycheck and a beer. if you got a plan and your working towards it then you can stay. once your just taking up space its done and your officially a loser.
Post 31 I was going to post the exact same thing. And not only is it a North American thing, it's relatively very recent, lets say 70 years or so. I don't think it's something that can go on for too much longer, either
And Post 34 Its only "loserville" if the kid is doing nothing with his/her life. If kid is living at home but is in school, working full time at low pay, getting their life back together, then there is nothing wrong with it.
If kid is living at home mooching, sleeping til 11, playing on the computer/video games all day, then its loserville
Both posts are spot on! It's only a recent North American phenomenon and given the home prices it won't last. Leaving home at 18 could work for some, but those that stay home longer, in my experience, tend to have bigger homes later on in life. When was the last time you saw a homeless Chinese or Korean? They tend stay at home the longest. Leaving home early doesn't allow you to save any money for a down payment on a home.
And Post 34 Its only "loserville" if the kid is doing nothing with his/her life. If kid is living at home but is in school, working full time at low pay, getting their life back together, then there is nothing wrong with it.
If kid is living at home mooching, sleeping til 11, playing on the computer/video games all day, then its loserville
Both posts are spot on! It's only a recent North American phenomenon and given the home prices it won't last. Leaving home at 18 could work for some, but those that stay home longer, in my experience, tend to have bigger homes later on in life. When was the last time you saw a homeless Chinese or Korean? They tend stay at home the longest. Leaving home early doesn't allow you to save any money for a down payment on a home.
