There are a couple of things to consider here...first of all I don't know your exact situation but the military will break you down then once you get through that phase they build your confidence as high as they can. Think about it, you have young kids that will most likely be in life and death situations. Once they are trained properly they need to have the confidence to make those decisions. Also, you might have some war veterans in town and they always push the limits. Whether they think they are above the law or just trying to catch up what they thought they missed, or maybe just kids with free time of and money to spend. whatever it is they tend to get into trouble and because of these facts most groups end up losing a soldier within the first 6 months after their return.Not saying that you gentleman fall into this category, but I live in a pretty large military town. One thing that I did notice is the attitude of some military people. They walk around like they are better than other people, and have that cockiness to them. What is their deal? They think they get a free pass or just become tougher by being in the military? Sorry, but no....
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There were places I was stationed at that weren't exactly "garden spots", but the comeraderie always made up for it. I was in places from Thule AFB, Grnland, to Hamilton AFB CA, now that was a "garden spot" for me. My job was great and something I translated into civilian life. I was lucky enough to attain the pay grade of E9, which is the top enlisted rank there is. Considering my base pay, housing allow., plus other advantages that rank gave me, we (family) lived very well. Guys experiences in other branches (marines & army) might differ. There are very few places where you can retire @ 37, w/50% of your pay. And then still have time for a 2nd career, as I did. I was 41 but the prnciple still applies. 2.5% extra for every 2 yrs after 20, till you get to a max. of 30. And even then if you went in @ 17 you're only 47. Gives you many options for the rest of your life. The widely held notion that the Mil. stifles "free thinking & individuality" is simply not true. The opportunities are there, it's up to you to take advantage of them.
Not saying that you gentleman fall into this category, but I live in a pretty large military town. One thing that I did notice is the attitude of some military people. They walk around like they are better than other people, and have that cockiness to them. What is their deal? They think they get a free pass or just become tougher by being in the military? Sorry, but no....
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i lived by the fort riley army base in kansas for three years and this is a big problem out there.
The 1st time I rotated home, I was in Mpls/St Paul, as a Reserve support team. No mil. base within 500 miles @ the time. Plus we had Mon/Tues off, we'd go to the beach, like shooting fish in a barrell!! No guys but us. Ahh the memories.