Darryl, if I had a teenage son who got in trouble with the law or was into drugs -- anything beyond 'normal' teenage rebellion and self-exploration -- I would look myself in the mirror and admit that I had failed miserably as a parent. Unfortunately, as you say, there wouldn't be much time to turn his life around.
So I would implement a three strike policy. I wouldn't throw him out on the street and allow him find his own way -- that would be cruel and could lead to tragedy. Assuming he struck out, I would send him off to boot camp for a year. There he would learn the values of discipline, decency, respect and self-worth. He would be surrounded by MALE testosterone and his self-esteem would be torn down and then rebuilt back up from scratch -- into a real man. No matter how often he begged me (or my wife), he would not come home. After the full year expired, I would sit down with my wife and son and reevaluate the situation. I would ask him what he's learned, if he agreed with my decision, if he believes he's a better MAN for it etc.
Tough love works. The earlier it is implemented in a child's development, the better. Parents should hurt a child's 'feelings' OFTEN. Throughout the course of a child's life, they should HATE their parents OFTEN. If you never hated your parents at some point in your life YOUR PARENTS DID NOT DO THEIR JOBS.
It's called raising -- NOT LOWERING -- standards and expectations. Both on the micro and macro, as you said the principles need to be consistent and balanced all throughout society.
The role of the mother (the feminine) is develop a child's
emotions; the role of a father is to develop a child's
character -- balance.
Too much 'compassion' is toxic.
As society has grown more feminine (compassion-uber-alles!) and the role of fatherhood and manhood has been shamefully marginalized, our society has become imbalanced and broken.
Kids need (want) rigid standards and clear expectations or many tragically fall off the tracks. When we raise the bar of expectations, kids meet or exceed them. When we lower them (out of 'compassion') kids live up to those expectations also.
More emphasis on developing character -- less on compassion
So if society decides "kids are going to have sex anyway" and we implement a school curriculum that teaches 10 year olds how to put condoms on bananas, why are we shocked when CHILDREN start having sex at an earlier and earlier age?
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When I was a boy, I got the strap in school. Today, the school would be sued for "child abuse." When I was a boy, every time the principal entered the room, children stood up out of respect. And my parents taught me to address my elders as Mr. and Mrs.
If Husseini Obambi wins next Nov and stacks the courts with his toxic leftist judges, the country will become even more imbalanced and broken than it already is.
Somewhere along the line, society swung too far LEFT. Today children have no absolutely no respect for authority -- ZERO. They don't have a healthy
fear for their parents, teachers, pastors, police...pretty much any authoritative figure, because of the feminization of society.
A kid wears a vile disgusting t-shirt to school -- the principal rightfully suspends him. The ALCU (the left's fav institution) sues the school under the guise of "free speech." Insanity! Since when do CHILDREN have free speech 'rights'? Since when do children have ANY 'rights' at all? :think2:
When we allow liberal elites to control our lives, raise our children, and we adopt their asinine values and counsel ("if it feels good do it"; "follow your heart and you'll always get what you want"; "a woman needs a man like fish needs a bicycle"; compassion-uber-alles etc.), we end up where we are today -- a broken society.
I am obviously very libertarian when it comes to purging leftist GOVERNMENT from our lives, but I am pro-dictatorship when it comes to raising kids and establishing the role a fathers, mothers, pastors, teachers, scout leaders as central authoritative figures.
Society on the micro and macro needs rigid standards and a
natural authoritative hierarchy or many people tragically fall off the tracks.
Contrary to the mantra of liberalism (rebellion is virtuous -- "don't trust anyone over the age of thirty"), authority is a good thing. And whatever our education and no matter how 'smart' we may think we are, yes, our elders ARE wiser. We should listen to them attentively because nothing beats real-life experience. The garbage our kids learn in school is 'theory' that rarely has any real life application -- in love, life, relationships, economics, social and moral standards...
The "self-esteem" movement ('feel' good about myself all the time) is a fraud. Note the first word in SELF-esteem. No, you should not "feel good" when you act bad. You should FEEL like shit. and adjust your behavior appropriately.
In a society and culture that idolizes 'youth' and is obsessed with self-gratification, we shouldn't be surprised that we live in a modern age of stupidity.
America needs an enema -- a return to our roots and traditional culture.
Get government and modern 'elites' out of our lives, out of our schools, out our homes, out of the courts and restore our society to the PEOPLE!
PEOPLE are wise and inherently GOOD on the micro. PEOPLE become incredibly selfish and stupid on the MACRO -- ALCU, teacher's unions, government ANYTHING etc.
MOTHERS and FATHERS know how to raise their kids. Pastors and teachers are the best social workers and moral counselors ever invented -- if we just let them do their jobs.
If the PEOPLE don't want same-sex marriage and this dirty standard imposed on society, the courts should not usurp their authority -- as they recently did in MA and CA. If the Boy Scouts of America (one of America's best traditional institutions for developing boys into MEN) rightfully recognizes homosexual behavior as the sin that it is, and therefore don't want gay counselors guiding their young scouts, the courts and the ALCU need to back off! If they don't back off, then people who love America (like you and I) need to rise up and FIGHT THEM! Do not sit on your hands and watch your country disintegrate in front of you.
If the PEOPLE insist on a certain school curriculum in their local communities, or want to hold a prayer service in their school, let not the LEFTIST COURTS in their state capitals and in Washington interfere with their constitutional right to do so.
The courts have overstepped their authority, Washington has overstepped it's authority, special interests and our liberal elites have become society's "moral counselors"...
It is time to TAKE OUR COUNTRY BACK -- back into the hands of the wise, righteous PEOPLE, because as the framers rightfully observed, SELF-GOVERNMENT is the ONLY government that WORKS!
Liberals have faith in GOVERNMENT and their special interests; conservatives have faith in PEOPLE. Parents know how to raise their own children than any self-interested government bureaucrat ever will!
Liberals believe 'compassion' and 'feelings' are virtues'; conservatives know wise, righteous rigid standards (moral, social and economic standards) are the only way a society can be self-sustaining and survive.
The former is churning out 'broken' people necessitating massive economic investments in social programs that are bankrupting our country; the later produces a self-sustaining economically and morally healthy (and FREER) society.
WE THE PEOPLE are ALL conservative on the micro in the values we teach our children and how we relate to one another....why can't we all be conservative on the MACRO as well?
Why is liberalism destroying and dividing our country? :think2:
