It can't be easy, Godspeed
The only thing I can say which only applies in late stages, it's OK to lie to them.
My friend's mom would always ask "where's Pa", and he would tell her he passed, and she would break down and cry like it was the first time she heard it. Sometimes multiple times a day.
I told him to lie to her, say he'll be back soon or something. Stop breaking her heart. Sure enough, a dementia counselor told him the same thing
Sometimes Iying is the best thing you can do
The only thing I can say which only applies in late stages, it's OK to lie to them.
My friend's mom would always ask "where's Pa", and he would tell her he passed, and she would break down and cry like it was the first time she heard it. Sometimes multiple times a day.
I told him to lie to her, say he'll be back soon or something. Stop breaking her heart. Sure enough, a dementia counselor told him the same thing
Sometimes Iying is the best thing you can do
Had a grandfather who passed this spring. He battled it for 3-4 years. Started as sundowners, then slowly got worse. He only was full blown for 6 months or so. It's sad because he was a great man and that nasty disease turned him into a hollow shell. We were happy that he didnt go years like that.
it's very hard, we are dealing with my GF's mom who is decline.
The main thing I'd say is it takes a lot of patience, understanding and sympathy dealing with someone with dementia.
I answer the same questions hourly when we are with her.. the funny thing is her very old memories are still intact, we spend a lot of time talking about days gone by and good times...Hopefully that can continue for a bit more.
I'd add we also don't always tell her the whole story about things going on..main goal is making her happy at this point.
Good luck Pal..I feel for you.
The main thing I'd say is it takes a lot of patience, understanding and sympathy dealing with someone with dementia.
I answer the same questions hourly when we are with her.. the funny thing is her very old memories are still intact, we spend a lot of time talking about days gone by and good times...Hopefully that can continue for a bit more.
I'd add we also don't always tell her the whole story about things going on..main goal is making her happy at this point.
Good luck Pal..I feel for you.
My dad is 93 and is almost completely blind. I visit them on the weekends every few weeks and he is pretty far out there. I have to get on my mom to tone it down sometimes. She goes off on him for asking the same things over and over. I hate to see it, but he probably wont be around much longer.
